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ParticipantHi Beni,
(or would you prefer to be called Ben? Because that’s how you signed your latest post)Oh, I spent so much time on this message. I hope it makes some sense to you
well, I think I understood most of it, but I’m not gonna lie, it’s not super easy 🙂
Ties of dependency and fear I’d say. I wouldn’t say they have hurt me anymore because they they could not do better and I did allow them to hurt me.
Well, even if they did the best they could, or they didn’t hurt you on purpose, they did cause emotional wounding. The wound is there, even though they didn’t mean it. It’s like you get hit by an arrow accidentally – it hurts, regardless of the fact that it wasn’t done on purpose. (ok, maybe this is a silly analogy, but it’s the first thing that came to mind).
And secondly, as a child you didn’t “allow” anything. We as children are passive “takers” of whatever treatment we get from our parents. We don’t really have the discernment to know what’s right or wrong, neither do we know how to set boundaries or stand up for ourselves. And many times, we think it’s our fault if our parents behave in hurtful ways.
So please don’t think that you allowed anything, as a child. Many times, if the abuse isn’t so obvious (such as beating or other types of physical abuse), the child doesn’t even know that they are suffering from abuse or neglect. For example, the child might be getting constant criticism and shaming, and yet believe that they deserve it.
So I think it’s okay to say that your parents have hurt you, i.e. caused some emotional wounding in your childhood. It doesn’t mean, however, that you never forgive them and that you – as the adult – cannot do anything to heal that wound. The wound is there, but now it’s your responsibility to do something about it.
Actually it’s a good thing that in order to heal, we don’t need anything from our parents – even if it was them who caused the wound. That’s the beauty of healing our own inner child- we don’t need to rely on our parents to give us what they failed to give us in childhood.
I say it this way because when I get caught by a strong emotion I become that emotion. I’d say, I’m born. Death would then be: “to be unborn again”.
So when you’re overwhelmed by an emotion (i.e. become the emotion), you say “I’m born”? And when you don’t allow the emotion to take over, you say you are “unborn again”?
That’s an interesting wording. Actually, the ability to observe our emotions without getting overwhelmed by them (like you said you did a few posts ago), is the feature of our Observer Self. And the Observer Self is one aspect of our True Self, or our Divine Self. So when we observe the emotion, but don’t become it, we’re in our Divine Self.
I’m mentioning this because being the Observer doesn’t really mean to be emotionally “dead”. It’s more like being “aware”. So to me, instead of “emotional death”, I prefer the term “emotional awareness”. Provided that we’re talking about the same thing: observing the emotion but not becoming overwhelmed by it. But please let me know if I’m not understanding you properly…
To the thinking mind it feels like death and I’ve been very afraid of it. First you have suicide thoughts and then you learn that physical suicide will not work. I did little acts of suicide like not drinking enough. Not eating. Not washing. I just gave up on trying to live. It did not seem worth the energy. But then you just keep living. It’s weird.
I am glad you’re not contemplating physical suicide. But I also understand that being overwhelmed by strong emotions can feel very scary (“To the thinking mind it feels like death and I’ve been very afraid of it.”)
It seems that you wanted an escape from those overwhelming emotions, and you tried to deprive your body of basic needs (eating, drinking), so you would feel less, right?
I understand that there is pain but no ties to it. This to me is the soil for healing to happen. Because then what is stuck in the body can move and be free and then healing happens.
Hmm… let me see if I got this right: You want to detach from pain, and the pain (and the unwanted emotions) are in the body. And so if you detach from the body, this could help in healing? Again, sorry if I’m misinterpreting your words… I would really like to understand, because then I could give you my thoughts on it (of course, if you’re interested).
I wonder did you make these career decisions you been talking above?
I’ve realized what’s holding me back from making those career decisions (layers of fear). Now that I’m trying to make an action plan, I see that my tendency to procrastinate is still present. But now I am looking it in the eye, I know what I’m dealing with, so it’s not automatic and unconscious. So I think I have a better chance to overcome it.
Tee
ParticipantHi Beni,
uhh, a lot of deep stuff in your last post. Dark night of the soul, death (emotional), nothingness, being no one (“There’s nothing behind the mask”).
Was that a Buddhist monastery that you stayed at? It seems the philosophy they follow is to focus on letting go (what you call emotional death), because in letting go, one is freed from pain and darkness, and there is lightness and independence (if I understood it right?):
Also one think a monk told me that dark knight of the soul is this dark thing and we’re here in the Christian countries are often drawn to the dark. But there is this very light and freeing quality while there is loss and often I notice how I’m focused on the dark. So it showed me lightness and independence and that death is nothing to fear (physical and emotional) but I’m still working on that one.
You also said:
It was quite heavy. I felt like if I just let go I would die. I went trough some heavy things and I think about death every day.
But also to die is the end of something so I would say emotional death is an important part where physical death doesn’t work.Does emotional death mean to cut emotional ties to the people who have hurt you (such as your parents)? Because you say they feel dead to you now:
It feels a bit like my parents have died. … I think the feeling that they are dead is good. It shows autonomy and independence but I’m not trough it there are still parts pulling.
To be honest, I don’t like the term “emotional death”, because it sounds like not just letting go of unhealthy attachments, but also dying emotionally, not feeling things any longer, not caring about anything (or anyone) anymore? I’m not sure if this is what you mean by emotional death?
True healing does require letting go of unhealthy attachments, e.g. letting go of our longing for our abusive or neglectful parents to finally give us the love and validation we’re craving. We indeed to let that go of that desire.
But I wouldn’t call it emotional death because the latter sounds as if we too die emotionally in the process – as if we become numb. Whereas with true healing, we start to truly live and love ourselves (and be able to love others too, in a healthy way). We don’t die emotionally, we are reborn, so to speak.
So I am not sure how these spiritual teaching go about healing? What is considered healing for them?
Tee
ParticipantHey Beni,
it’s a joy to hear from you too! <3
Oh, you have been going trough a thing and found some lightness. I’m proud of you!
Thank you! Yeah, it was a kind of a dark night, but I did find light(ness) and hope, eventually…
I wonder what beliefs the knees are connected with.
I’m afraid a part of it is a consequence of an old injury (a fall) that dislocated my kneecap just slightly, and over time caused my cartilage to wear off. But it was a slow and insidious process, and I didn’t get a proper medical advice either, so the damage to my cartilage progressed more than it should have 🙁
But I’m sure there is a spiritual, i.e. psychosomatic component as well, because it is about mobility and movement. And I’ve been pretty immobile and paralyzed in making certain career decisions. During this latest “dark night”, I’ve actually realized what core beliefs were behind it, so I’m working on releasing those.
And there was also the lower-back pain, which was an additional very nasty episode. Thankfully, that’s much better now, although I feel I’ll never be the same again, in terms of the ability to put stress on it. But thank God, it’s much less of an issue than before.
In any case, both of those are problems with physical mobility, and I’m pretty sure it’s related to the psychological aspect as well. And I think that because I’ve become aware of it, it’s easier to manage the physical pain as well.
I revisited a woman in autumn which turns out I’m really attached to. More than I thought. I have been suppressing that for a year before. To keep it short she has no space for me. I think every day of her. I think she’s the love of my life and I don’t really move on and I’m learning to accept that. Also I’m not moving on with my life I’m kinda waiting for her.
“she has no space for me” – meaning she’s not interested in a relationship with you?
That must be hard if you believe/feel she’s the love of your life, and your love isn’t reciprocated 🙁
I’m not moving on with my life I’m kinda waiting for her.
You think she will change her mind? Did she give you a hint that she might?
This is connected to the relationship with my mother inside. I feel way better about her I love her. Outside I don’t care so much.
You mean you love this girl and you’re hurt that she doesn’t want to be with you, but you don’t show it to her? You pretend you’re cool about her rejection? Or you haven’t even showed her clearly that you have feelings for her?
It feels a bit like my parents have died. Also the relationship with my dad is something I reflect more often now.
I feel avoidant about meeting family and old friends.Oh, I’m sorry about that. A part of your isolation – which you talked about before – is that you didn’t want to relate to people on their terms, but on your own, right? Specially with your mother, you didn’t want to fulfill her “orders” (to clean the kitchen, etc) while she treated you with disrespect. Do you feel that’s still the case – that you don’t want to pretend with people, or conform to their expectations, but you’re also not able to set proper boundaries, so it’s easier for you to withdraw?
I have been staying 3 months in a monastery and will stay another month in june.
Oh cool! How’s that been?
All this has taught me a lot and i can stay present trough more pain and am more accepting with myself. I generally feel peaceful even when in pain and often I can step away from heavy and dark tought patterns.
That’s great that you can emotionally regulate yourself and you don’t slip into dark thoughts. That’s a real strength. To sit with pain, and feel it, without letting it consume you.
Turns out I’m not who I think I am..
Would you elaborate on that?
May 30, 2025 at 2:10 am in reply to: Trying to heal from possible narcissistic mother + build own life #446423Tee
Participantooops, something went wrong with the formatting! I am reposting with no special format:
Dear Sophie,
I totally empathize with you, because it’s not an easy situation to be in. I’ve got a person with very similar characteristics to your mother in my close surroundings, and it’s extremely hard.
She too is self-destructive, doesn’t care about her health, and then when there’s some emergency (usually of her own doing), she calls her son to rescue her and take care of her. She likes overspending and getting into debt (from which she expects to be rescued as well, taking no responsibility for her spending habits.) She also gets into conflicts with neighbors due to her own antisocial behavior, refuses to cooperate, and then blames the neighbors for being “crazy”.
She is entitled, stubborn, refuses to take responsibility for her actions, and like your mother, expects her son to extinguish the fires that she herself started. She hasn’t been diagnosed with anything, because she absolutely refuses that there is anything wrong with her. But she definitely shows traits of narcissism and possibly borderline as well. And like a true narcissist, she can actually show a normal face in public, feigning a rational, well-educated and well-mannered person, while only her closest family and friends (and next-door neighbors) know her true self.
Her son is on the receiving end of all this, and it’s been very hard for him. He’s grown up feeling responsible for her – he like you is a parentified child. And she uses guilt-tripping (“but I am your mother, I took care of you as a child, now you should take care of me!”) to get him to do what she wants.
He would feel guilty if something bad happened to her – because she’s programmed him to believe that it is his responsibility. But it’s also true that nobody would want to see their loved one get into serious trouble, fall sick or die. And so he needs to balance his care and compassion for his mother with self-protection and not allowing her to ruin his life.
In the last 6 months I’ve been learning more about narcissism and have come across a fantastic resource for adult children of narcissistic parents. A psychotherapist Jerry Wise has numerous videos on his youtube channel on how to do exactly what you’re seeking to do: become your own person and liberate yourself from your mother’s grip. A video that can serve as an intro into his approach is titled “How to Raise Your Self-worth Even if Your Parents Destroyed It“.
His main premise is that growing up with a narc parent, we inevitably get emotionally enmeshed with them, because they make us so, via guilt tripping and expecting us to meet their needs, not vice versa. So we need to liberate ourselves from that emotional enmeshment and feeling guilty for having our own needs, desires, goals.. basically, for having our own life and being a separate person from them.
He calls this process self-differentiation. He has dozens of videos, a free webinar, and also a paid program. I am mentioning this because you say you’re currently on a tight budget, so perhaps, if you resonate with his approach, this can be a cheaper alternative to individual psychotherapy, and still serve as a blueprint or a spreadsheet that you said you’d like to have. Although I have to say, I myself haven’t taken the program, I only watched his free videos.
Another useful video I can recommend is How To Heal From A Narcissistic Parent, by Barbara Heffernan. She is talking about whether to cut contact or not, and how the most important thing is to cut the entanglement, i.e. become less emotionally attached. And then we can decide how we want to relate to them – whether to reduce contact and set strong boundaries, or cut contact completely.
This is such a huge and complex topic, and these are just some ideas to start with. You’ve got a really great insight into your situation and an amazing self-awareness, and I am sure that you’re able to start walking this path of self-differentiation, slowly but surely. It’s a blessing that you’ve got a supportive husband – that’s so precious! I too recommend that you don’t let your mother draw him into her schemes (perhaps he could block her number or not pick up the phone when she is calling? Because a narcissist will indeed use all entries and all possibilities, if you let them.)
May 30, 2025 at 2:07 am in reply to: Trying to heal from possible narcissistic mother + build own life #446422Tee
ParticipantDear Sophie,
I totally empathize with you, because it’s not an easy situation to be in. I’ve got a person with very similar characteristics to your mother in my close surroundings, and it’s extremely hard.
She too is self-destructive, doesn’t care about her health, and then when there’s some emergency (usually of her own doing), she calls her son to rescue her and take care of her. She likes overspending and getting into debt (from which she expects to be rescued as well, taking no responsibility for her spending habits.) She also gets into conflicts with neighbors due to her own antisocial behavior, refuses to cooperate, and then blames the neighbors for being “crazy”.
She is entitled, stubborn, refuses to take responsibility for her actions, and like your mother, expects her son to extinguish the fires that she herself started. She hasn’t been diagnosed with anything, because she absolutely refuses that there is anything wrong with her. But she definitely shows traits of narcissism and possibly borderline as well. And like a true narcissist, she can actually show a normal face in public, feigning a rational, well-educated and well-mannered person, while only her closest family and friends (and next-door neighbors) know her true self.
Her son is on the receiving end of all this, and it’s been very hard for him. He’s grown up feeling responsible for her – he like you is a parentified child. And she uses guilt-tripping (“but I am your mother, I took care of you as a child, now you should take care of me!”) to get him to do what she wants.
He would feel guilty if something bad happened to her – because she’s programmed him to believe that it is his responsibility. But it’s also true that nobody would want to see their loved one get into serious trouble, fall sick or die. And so he needs to balance his care and compassion for his mother with self-protection and not allowing her to ruin his life.
In the last 6 months I’ve been learning more about narcissism and have come across a fantastic resource for adult children of narcissistic parents. A psychotherapist Jerry Wise has numerous videos on his youtube channel on how to do exactly what you’re seeking to do: become your own person and liberate yourself from your mother’s grip. A video that can serve as an intro into his approach is titled “How to Raise Your Self-worth Even if Your Parents Destroyed It“.
His main premise is that growing up with a narc parent, we inevitably get emotionally enmeshed with them, because they make us so, via guilt tripping and expecting us to meet their needs, not vice versa. So we need to liberate ourselves from that emotional enmeshment and feeling guilty for having our own needs, desires, goals.. basically, for having our own life and being a separate person from them.
He calls this process self-differentiation. He has dozens of videos, a free webinar, and also a paid program. I am mentioning this because you say you’re currently on a tight budget, so perhaps, if you resonate with his approach, this can be a cheaper alternative to individual psychotherapy, and still serve as a blueprint or a spreadsheet that you said you’d like to have. Although I have to say, I myself haven’t taken the program, I only watched his free videos.
Another useful video I can recommend is How To Heal From A Narcissistic Parent, by Barbara Heffernan. She is talking about whether to cut contact or not, and how the most important thing is to cut the entanglement, i.e. become less emotionally attached. And then we can decide how we want to relate to them – whether to reduce contact and set strong boundaries, or cut contact completely.
This is such a huge and complex topic, and these are just some ideas to start with. You’ve got a really great insight into your situation and an amazing self-awareness, and I am sure that you’re able to start walking this path of self-differentiation, slowly but surely. It’s a blessing that you’ve got a supportive husband – that’s so precious! I too recommend that you don’t let your mother draw him into her schemes (perhaps he could block her number or not pick up the phone when she is calling? Because a narcissist will indeed use all entries and all possibilities, if you let them.)
Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
Well, every solution is a temporary solution, isn’t it Tee?
I was referring to a regular, daily use of a drug, which can be detrimental. That’s why it is recommended to use only temporary. Not sure why the need for relativization?
I’m sorry, but I don’t feel that the discussion about my chronic pain or ways to treat it is relevant or helpful, specially not here, on SereneWolf’s thread. I would like to return the thread to him, if that’s okay with you, in hope that he will see it and reply in due time.
Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
you’re very welcome!
Ibuprofen and other NSAIDs can be a temporary solution, but as far as I know, they’re not recommended to use on a daily basis, because they can have side effects, such as kidney damage and heart problems. Better solution would be to do physical therapy to strengthen the muscles and relieve the joint. But of course, if you only have occasional pain, be it in the knee or anywhere else in the body, using pain killers is fine.
Tee
ParticipantDear Beni,
it’s been a long time since we’ve communicated, and I apologize for not replying to your last post and disappearing again 🙁 My health suddenly deteriorated last September (chronic knee pain becoming much worse and no treatment seemed to help), and so it made me really depressed and at the end of my rope.
But then I’ve started journaling about it, for months and months as this was going on, and I’ve come to some pretty important realizations about myself and the core beliefs that are keeping me stuck. Which of course have to do with my childhood and the way I was parented and “programmed”, so to speak.
Over time, I could surrender those false beliefs, and my knee got a bit better too, so life seems manageable again 🙂 And I feel hopeful again…
How have you been, Beni? How is your relationship with your mother? I’d be happy to hear from you! <3
Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
I wish I could be more than I was, so to be there for you the way you needed someone to be there for you.
you are absolutely enough! <3 You don’t need to be more or give more than you’re already giving. Luckily, I wasn’t all alone in my pain. My husband was there with me, supporting me, both physically and emotionally. I couldn’t have done it alone. So don’t worry, I didn’t suffer all by myself, even though I wasn’t present on the forums.
You’re doing a great service to so many people, so please don’t feel bad about “not being enough”!
Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
thank you for kind offer.
Tee, I have to admit—it feels a little strange to be offering you support, after all the years you’ve spent helping so many people on the forums with their struggles, and doing such a remarkable job at it. It makes me wonder—what could I possibly say that you don’t already know?
I was touched when I saw that you’ve reached out to me this March and expressed your good wishes and hope that I’d return to the forums (I haven’t seen it at the time you posted, but only now, in May). It showed how much you care, and it meant a lot to me. Already that in itself is a huge support – acknowledging someone, expressing you’re thinking of them and hoping they are doing fine. It really is, Anita. I don’t think there is anything else you need to do to help me at the moment. And I kind of am not actively asking for help – I need to put my own insights into practice, choosing trust over fear. So wish me luck with that! 🙂
Please don’t disappear again, Tee. If there is any way I can help you, in a way I wasn’t able or willing to help you before- please let me know. Don’t go back to Isolation and Depression. I care about you, Tee (previously TeaK.. remember?)
To be honest, writing each single post takes me quite a lot of time. I am very slow, and I cannot be super active on the forums with other activities in my life. I can’t become a regular contributor, like you are. But I returned to show that I am alive and not to betray the people I was communicating with. And I am glad that I returned and felt your warm welcome! <3
(previously TeaK.. remember?
I do remember, and there is a reason I’ve changed my user name. So I’d like to stay Tee, if possible 🙂 Thanks!Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
thank you. Yes, learned helplessness is one of my key issues. I was programmed to feel helpless and to see every problem not as a challenge to master, but as an insurmountable obstacle and something that is dangerous and might get me in trouble. So I was taught to be afraid of challenges – both because they are scary and also because I don’t have the necessary abilities and skills to solve them (according to my mother). Which basically lead to paralysis…
“The courage to change the things I can” – yes, it took me till recently to understand that I didn’t believe I can change some things – because I (unconsciously) believed that I was doomed from the start.
I also want to add that physical pain affects me deeply. My tendency is to catastrophize it, fearing it will never improve and will always limit me.
I had a similar experience with back pain, which lasted for almost 1.5 years. It was a totally new and scary experience to live with chronic pain, which fluctuates and comes back again and again, and you realize you’ll never be free from it. It did get better though, and I’m not feeling as fragile and helpless as before. I don’t feel like a helpless victim to my back pain. So I did develop some resilience there, both physical and psychological.
The thought of losing the ability to walk is frightening. I know many people in real life who struggle with knee pain, experiencing discomfort while walking. Among those who had knee replacement surgery, the majority saw significant improvement, and some even became completely pain-free.
Knee replacement is waiting for me too, down the line, but it’s best to postpone it till a certain age, because the artificial knee has an expiry date, and once you had it “installed”, it needs to serve you for life. So… you don’t want to put it in too soon, if you know what I mean 🙂 And it’s a major surgery, which in itself comes with some risks and a long recovery time, so it’s better to postpone it as much as possible.
Thank you Anita for your valuable feedback, your help, support and continued presence! Keep shining! 🙂 <3
Tee
ParticipantDear Alessa,
thank you so much, that’s so kind of you! <3
Yeah, health has been a major “catalyst” for me – causing me great pain, but also leading me to greater insights about my core issues. I’ve realized I am not only physically limited, but also that I am holding limiting beliefs, which have held me back for a long time. And the true limitation was my belief that I was doomed to fail. That there is no point in trying, because I would fail anyway.
I wasn’t aware of this false belief, but I’ve been definitely feeling its consequences: being stuck, unable to make a move, forever procrastinating. Perhaps it’s not by chance that my physical issues are all about being limited in movement…
Alessa, thank you again for you welcoming words! Wishing us all healing and thriving!
May 27, 2025 at 4:28 am in reply to: Understanding someone who's recently divorced and not ready #446320Tee
ParticipantDear Dafne,
I am so sorry to have left you hanging and disappearing on you. I got into a difficult spot health-wise and fell into depression, because no treatment seemed to help. I talked about it a bit more on the other thread.
But then I saw that Anita has your back and is helping you, and I felt a little less guilty for disappearing like that. I hope you can forgive me, though I know I should have at least let you know that I am still around (alive, but not really kicking 🙂 ), because you said you were worried about me. I am very sorry about that.
I’ve read through your exchange with Anita, and I am glad that with Anita’s help, you’ve become even more aware of the bad influence your mother has on you. And that you’ve decided to go to a retreat and spend some time away from that abusive environment. Have you managed to do that?
I too believe you need to separate yourself, both physically and emotionally from your mother. Because I’ve been learning some more about toxic parents, and one key problem is our enmeshment with them. They don’t let us be a separate person, they feel like they possess us. And indeed, she doesn’t let you move away, she always blackmails you and guilt trips you back into her abusive “embrace.” It’s always like that with toxic parents: they have a hold on us and they don’t let us go (or let us be).
I do hope you are not giving up on gaining your freedom from abuse. I’ve come across additional online resources on how to do that – how to liberate ourselves from the grip of abusive parents – and I’ll be happy to share them with you.
I hope you are fine and hanging in there, Dafne! Sending you lots of love <3
Tee
ParticipantDear Anita,
thank you so much for your kind words. I am grateful for your contributions as well, for being there for people consistently, offering help and support to everyone in need. Your care and dedication have been truly remarkable! I hope you stay around for a long time! <3
Tee
ParticipantDear SereneWolf,
it’s been a very long time, and I sincerely apologize for the silence, but it’s been a challenging period, ever since last September.
I’ve been having issues with my mobility for the past 5 years or so, but in September my condition suddenly deteriorated, and I couldn’t even walk for a few minutes without pain. This was a totally unexpected deterioration and it wouldn’t get better, no matter what I tried. The treatment that I was having high hopes for and that had a chance of bringing significant improvement largely failed too.
And so I fell into a deep depression, because I felt pretty much doomed. For the last 5 years, I’d been having a string of bad luck with my health, and this seemed like the last nail in the coffin. I felt as if God or a higher power is against me, deliberately giving me these blows, sabotaging me, not allowing me to be happy. Or at best not caring about me, letting me suffer alone. And I thought to myself – well if God is against me, then how can I possibly ever thrive? How can I ever succeed? I truly felt doomed at the time.
But then, after pages and pages of self-reflection, I’ve realized that this negative and hostile “higher power” is in fact my mother. To me as a child, she was a “higher power” and omnipotent. In fact, Anita used to talk about our parents being like gods to us, and it helped me come to the realization that my mother is this negative, hostile “higher power”, who is against me. And that I’ve been projecting my own parents onto my image of God.
Which was a huge revelation! It helped me to become more hopeful and optimistic, in spite of being in a pretty bad place health-wise. It helped me accept that a different reality is possible, even though my current reality was pain and suffering. Dr. Joe Dispenza’s videos and testimonies of miraculous healings (which to me proved the existence of a benevolent higher power, who wants us to thrive in life) helped me too.
Over the next few months my knee got a bit better, not quite as before last September, but there are periods without pain and I can go for short walks, which is a huge blessing. And I’ve realized many other things regarding my mother and her “programming”, which explain why I’ve always felt stuck regarding my career, and why I’ve never managed to fulfill my dreams. I feel those blocks are getting weaker and the deeply held fears are slowly melting.
The new day is hopefully coming, the new dawn, I hope… The false belief (that I am doomed) is gone. But there’s a long way before me. I need to start putting one foot before the other, walking the walk, feeling the fear, but doing it anyway… But I truly hope it’s possible, now that the false core belief is gone.
How have you been, SereneWolf? Still slowmading?
Thank you so much for your kind words, for your continual support and for being so gracious and understanding about my disappearances. I know it’s not the best feature of mine. I tend to withdraw when I am in pain, rather than seek support and connection. I curl into my own cocoon. But by doing that, I abandon people who might need my help and support. I am sorry for that.
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