How long has he been on the force? I worked with police for several years and learned a lot. Because of the job, you pretty much have to shut off your emotions. BUT because of this, when you return home you cant turn them back on again….its a bad way for sure. They see so much terrible things that if you kept your emotions going on the job you would break.

Now, on the other hand….if he was always like this before even being a police officer then you might want to really think this one over. Someone with that kind of….lack of may kill your side of Good emotions over time.

“When a rotted apple is put in a basket with a dozen healthy apples the rotten apple doesnt become healthy. It rots the other apples”-Unknown

Very well spoken Jesuanreis!

The only thing I can add is do something each day that is Stress free! Because sitting with stress like that on your head 24/7 will kill you by time your 45. Doesnt have to be some kind of big deal stress free event but just something that breaks the cycle of the 24/7 hating your situations and feeling weak. Take up weight lifting, build your mind strong. Take up boxing, hitting the bag to get anger going in a positive constructive way.

“When things look bad, like they’re not gonna go your way….that’s when you get mean. I’m talkin’ plumb maddog mean. because if you lose your head and give up you neither win nor live. that’s just the way it is.”-Josey Wales

Sometimes to get out of the hole you gotta get angry but not to hurt anyone. Use the anger to win back your life. This isnt the life for me and Im gonna take a stand.

Well, im always around to talk on the weekends if your interested hit me up.

A Topic I can relate to. I myself have asked the question when I started to become more peaceful and stop the rage. Here is what I have learned. Heavy Metal CAN increase your anger towards….well….anything because it gets you in a state of Power? Meaning when Im driving and someone cuts me off and Im listening to heavy metal telling me to take no Sh*t from people. Next thing I know Im wanting to run them off the road, give the finger, curse them. Whatever, same goes for interactions with people. Now, replay the same story only now listening to….Elvis we will say. I just let it go and laugh, go about my day enjoying it.

BUT do I think you should stop listening to it all together? Of course not! This is what I do. Lifting weights? Listen to Metal. Boxing/sports? Listen to Metal. Going to a concert? Listen to Metal. Hanging out with your wife for a dinner date? DONT listen to metal. Driving? DONT listen to metal. Trying to relax/sleep? DONT listen to metal.

You get the idea, you have to make it work for you. When I get down in the dumps, metal protects me and makes me rise again. As for the lyrics, stop listening to them. Listen to Rammstein or Sepultura so you just get the sound without knowing the dark lyrics or angry lyrics. Or find bands with a positive Metal influence. They are out there.

Jerris,

I admire your determination to teach abroad. If I had the guts myself I would love to teach abroad, its a much harder road than what most choose to do. Just shut these other people up by proving them wrong. The world is full of people who want to keep you down because they themselves are down. If you become your dreams, that means they have to face the fact they didnt and its possible.

Much Respect.