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  • in reply to: What was your biggest challenge? #125946
    theunderground
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    My biggest challenge has been facing my jealously and in turn improving my self-esteem. I find there isn’t too many resources that specifically target jealousy but through the years I have found that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help one with most issues they face. At times I still continue to struggle with jealousy to be honest but have found myself making great strides and getting fewer “flare ups” so to speak.
    Yoga has slowly helped me deal with these unpleasant feelings and reactions. Breathing is honestly the number one thing that gets me through difficult moments in life. Just a few deep breaths in and out before acting irrationally. I guess it gives you time to act more rationally, less habitually.
    I also have taken much more time for myself. It took me 100,000,000 times of hearing to PRACTICE SELF CARE EVERY DAY before I started to integrate it into my life. Honestly, this time to myself is really helping me build my confidence and love myself.
    I also have removed Facebook from my phone and don’t use Instagram as I was finding myself so focused on making comparisons and even judging others for sport (as a way to make myself feel better) and it was incredibly unhealthy. Taking those social media images and reminders away has helped me to practice STOP judging others and in the end to STOP judging myself.
    It is always a work in progress. We all just do the best we can :). I also try not to take life too seriously… there aren’t too many gains in doing same at the end of the day.

    in reply to: Connection #123635
    theunderground
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    Wow.. thank you for this message. You honestly hit the nail on the head with a lot of things. My mother had a traumatic upbringing and when I set boundaries with her she gets really upset and angry. It’s an emotional roller coaster with her at times. I think I will look for a book on boundaries setting… see how I can change my actions. Thank you!

    in reply to: Connection #123499
    theunderground
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    Thank you for the quick response, Anita. I agree that those connections are likely superficial in nature.

    In regards to the lack of self-connection I talked about, I am finding it difficult to feel connected to myself / connected to who I truly am and what I stand for. It feels sometimes as though I am very indecisive and can be easily swindled by other peoples comments/ideas – as if I do not have a mind of my own. I do fear rejection, and fear hurting peoples feelings if I set a limit with them or say what I really want. After looking into this further, I am beginning to think that I struggle with setting boundaries and don’t know where to even begin.

    I hope this makes sense… I am a bit confused about it all myself.

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