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December 3, 2025 at 7:55 pm #452538
Thomas168ParticipantThere is a story of a woman who moved to Hong Kong. She spoke Mandarin while everyone around her spoke Cantonese. With little money and little skills, she started with what she thought could be a business to keep her surviving. She made dumplings. At first she did make many sales and even had to throw away the dumplings cause they spoiled waiting for customers. Thru perseverance, trial and error, she finally started selling dumplings. Ended up making millions. Of course not everyone will make it. Any business is a risk. Are you smart enough? Are you hardworking enough? Do you know how to market and sell? What will you market? Services or items? No one can just give you an idea that will become a profitable business. I am sure there will be those to suggest something. Good luck. Wish you the best.
December 3, 2025 at 7:44 pm #452537
Thomas168ParticipantWhat seems to ring true for me is the mind is what moves. And, the mind is therefore only ever temporarily still. The enlightened mind sees emptiness even as the mind has thoughts, or bodily activity. Dogen believed that there is no difference between the mind in stillness and enlightenment itself, only that the meditator may not realize this. A good teacher can actually point out this enlightened mind so that the student can learn to practice in it.
There are those who seek emptiness or the realization of the “no-self”. The mistake is thinking it is separate or something to achieve. The belief that the death of the self is needed to attain freedom from suffering. One can not polish a roof tile into a mirror. You can not make yourself into something you are not already. So, Zen believes one is already enlightened. Only one has to realized this thru experience. Much like walking around thinking one has no head. That the head was lost. Then suddenly realized the head has been there all along.
A person can learn many things and become a auto mechanic or plumber or electrician or whatever. But, one can not learn to become enlightened. Understanding takes us so far. Words are the vehicle that takes one to the edge. Then the jump must be made to cross beyond the mind’s ability to understand.
Sorry for the rant.
December 3, 2025 at 10:39 am #452515
Thomas168ParticipantDear James,
“Lying to yourself is not a being liar.”
You have free will to believe in whatever you wish to believe.
To me, if you lie then you are a liar. Doesn’t matter who you lie to.
If you wish then you can lie to yourself or another or to God.
But, if you truly believe in what you say is true then is it a lie?
Then what right does another have to claim those truths are lies.
I have never claimed you do not tell the truth. Neither do I believe what you say is true.
Does that make it a lie?Suffering is all about wanting something the way it is not at the moment.
There is pain and there is suffering. The two are not the exactly the same thing.
What you tell yourself is not the cause of suffering. It is the desire to have different conditions.
There is only now. Living in the moment. Not out of control. But not controlling.December 3, 2025 at 3:57 am #452502
Thomas168ParticipantDear James,
I just used the mirror to show you what you have done. Accused me of being a liar. And, I showed you what that is. Then, I tried to lighten the mood. If one looks at Jesus then you can see that he knew his destiny or his fate. All the pain and suffering. Yet, he went thru it. God’s will if one believes in God.
Dear Anita,
Not fatalistic. One can still believe in free will and making choices. That was never denied. However, destiny and fate have a way to coming about. I grew up being taught Christian values or religious instructions. But, as a child I grew to distance myself from such things. My brother believes in God whole heartedly. I do not. So, I do not argue with him. I only hold a mirror of what he says. Then ask him questions to bring his ideas to the front. It has been a roller coaster.
Dear Alessa,
Thank you for your view. Much appreciated. Yes, it is important to find a good teacher. I am glad to see your understanding is better than mine. I do enjoy humor. Like how does a computer or AI find out one is human. By clicking on all the fire hydrants in a set of random pictures. Being reduced to a bunch of choices one makes. LOL. Are humans more than a set of choices?
December 2, 2025 at 5:16 pm #452485
Thomas168ParticipantIn modern age, what makes a person human? According to computers, by selecting all the fire hydrants in the set of random pictures.
December 2, 2025 at 5:06 pm #452484
Thomas168ParticipantReal spirituality comes when one finds one’s spirit. Can you show me your spirit?
December 2, 2025 at 3:35 pm #452482
Thomas168ParticipantDear James,
Sadly, I am sorry that you believe your own lies.
Best regards,December 2, 2025 at 9:37 am #452464
Thomas168ParticipantOne does not choose one’s fate. What is destined will come to pass.
What you see as a door is a device of your own making. No one is making an empty mind.
That is not enlightenment. The awakened mind does not dwell upon the body. So when the body dies and decays,
the awakened mind does not die and decay.When the wind blows and the flag moves, what is it that moves?
Is it the flag that moves?
Is it the wind that moves?
Or, is it the mind that moves?Living out of control is the fastest way to die.
December 1, 2025 at 6:10 pm #452436
Thomas168ParticipantI am sorry for all the hurt that you have been thru. And what I have got to say may not help. But, here goes anyway, holding on to the memories of the past will only hold you from moving forward. They will pull at you in and bring you back to the misery that you have experienced over and over. Each time you have thoughts of those memories. Hurt. Pain. Trying to figure which is true and what had happened. Pain and more pain. Thrown into turmoil again and again. My hope for you is to drop the past and go forward. To release all the anger and pain. To forgive the people who have hurt you. To give yourself the freedom to have a better life. So, I wish you the best. Good luck to you.
December 1, 2025 at 5:55 pm #452435
Thomas168ParticipantIf God calls then what makes you believe that you have a choice of whether to go to him or not? I think Alessa is right in her thinking. If the true God calls then what makes one believe that there is a choice? If the maker of reality chooses you then how does one deny the will of God? One can not. When one returns to the source then one becomes the source.
And after physical death there is no desire so there is no good or evil. There is no freedom. All that you are is this mind in this body. All that you are, .. are these thoughts that have travelled thru this mind. This is what happens when one identifies with the thoughts. Freedom comes from dropping this mind. When one is in meditation and the mind is absolutely quiet, this is the enlightened mind. Emptiness is the liberation. Not emptiness as in nothing. But the emptiness as the whole. Much like in quantum mechanics. Everything is possible in the nothingness. Don’t let death find you before you experience this.
October 24, 2025 at 8:38 am #451214
Thomas168ParticipantIf you can’t beat them then can you join them? Silly enough. If she walks on eggshells then don’t you do the same when you have to control your speech? What do people say? You can choose your friends but you can’t choose your relatives? If you change yourself then will that makes thing better between you two? If you really do care about the person then do they feel the same? Yeah, more questions than answers. Personally, I don’t have many close friends. What friends I do have .. are separated by quite some distance (thank God).
October 22, 2025 at 6:15 am #451150
Thomas168ParticipantHello Sushmita,
Some say the first cut is the deepest. Meaning the first love is very ingrained in the heart and mind. Yes, makes it very difficult to let go of the past. But, in life, one doesn’t stop eating after the first meal is done. When one finishes the first loaf of bread, there is another loaf. And so, for one to move forward, there has to be someone else. That way, the space that was taken by the first love can be displaced by the present time and space.
Memories and wishful thinking will cause you to suffer more than if you were able to let it go. And so that is the exercise, that when thoughts of the first love comes up to let it go. Do not follow or chase after it. Concentrate on your exams. Anytime those thoughts of him come, let it go. Do not think of him. Focus on your book learning. The more you make yourself work on the books and exam then the less hold those thoughts and memories will have their hold on you. You need the time away from those thoughts.
Having a new person in your life is not easy at first. Especially when you haven’t met him yet. So, bide your time and be open to conversations. When it is right, you will know. But, for now, you need to get your mind on your studies. Good luck to you.
October 17, 2025 at 5:53 pm #451017
Thomas168ParticipantTo be held as an inspiration is to be held to a higher standard. Being judged as a person better than someone else makes one think. If you should fall then would everyone else who looks up to you fall? Are you responsible for another’s life? It is a difficult place to be when people hold you to a different standard. Some might take it as a compliment and leave it as that. Others would let the ego grow. And then there are those who self reflect. And wonder what that means.
October 17, 2025 at 5:43 pm #451016
Thomas168ParticipantAnita,
The reality of water contamination comes to mind. Better not drink contaminated water and get sick. I did, almost died of dysentery as a baby. I survived only for my mind to be contaminated by a different kind of water..
I am sorry that I can not explain this better. But, it really isn’t something words can convey. Rather the experience would better answer your question. Kensho, Satori, Enlightenment or whatever you wish to call it. Realizing the Buddha nature.
In that way, you would understand. Unfortunately, it isn’t something everyone will experience. The experience can be alluded to but never fully understood thru words. I mention something and your mind brings something else up. Would just leave it to be better understood at a later date.
October 16, 2025 at 4:03 pm #450990
Thomas168ParticipantHello Anita,
You are trying to reconcile conventional wisdom with absolute wisdom. In conventional knowledge, we know animals have a sense of family. Other animals that are well known. Versus the other animals not part of their family. People have this too. A sense where if one inflicts pain and suffering that it doesn’t have to be them that also has to suffer. If a person experiences one’s Buddha nature then it is possible to realize that people are from a common essence. Like people are from the same source of water. When we fall back into the source, we are just water. All the same. Of course conventional knowledge is how we live at this moment. Where absolute knowledge would say that life is an illusion. Illusion doesn’t mean it is false. Just that from the perspective of long lasting. Oh, never mind me. It isn’t easy to make sense of this non sense.
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