Long distance relationships and meeting online, … this can bring many things into play. One is the idea of another person being in this relationship. This turns into fantasy and how much they are in love. While the other person only sees it as a beginning of a relationship. It is not unusual for people to be on two different frequencies. Communications is difficult and not everything is said that needs to be said. Lots can be said for body language communicating desires and other information. so, fear of commitment?

My boss went to the Philippines for a two week vacation. He hooked up with a nice young girl. But told her out right that this was just a fling. At the end of the two weeks, she was in his hotel room sobbing and saying they should be together. He just got thru a messy divorce and wasn’t going to go thru that again. So, even with good communications, things don’t always work out. so, fear of commitment?

Maybe just not what you had in mind from the beginning? But then why start this relationship if you aren’t willing to go further? Is it fear of getting hurt? Well who knows for sure.

For me, I was vacationing when I met my wife. Was introduced by her aunt. Right away I told her I liked her looks and wanted to see if there was a chance for me. After the vacation was over, I wrote to her everyday. At the end of the year, I would find time to visit her for a month. This went on for a couple of years. Finally married her and she moved to the USA. Been married since Nov. 8th 1996. It has been a rollercoaster ride. Ups and downs. But, I think I am happy. And so, I wish you happiness in your LDR.

Just looking at the opening posts, it is not unusual for people to become bored or unsatisfied with whatever they have at the present moment. This wanting something then achieving it brings with it over time a sense of dissatisfaction. Then something new must come along to bring want and desire. Then to achieve that would bring its own sense of dissatisfaction over time. Much like wanting a new car. Once you get it, it is exciting then over time it becomes unsatisfactory. Not that there is really something wrong with the car. The owner now needs something new to bring the excitement back. That is the human condition. It is hard to be content. If one looks at personal relationships as an object like a car then people become disposable. Not very good for society as a whole. So comes marriage and vows. Statistically, women become dissatisfied easily with marriage and initiate divorce 80% of the time. This is not blame. Just information. What you do with it is up to you.

Sorry, don’t mean to say get a life. More like, it is time to concentrate on you and your life. Wanting others to see you the way you do is almost always a disappointment. I like to think highly of myself even though I am not so great. Helps me to sleep at night. LOL. So remember that it is time to focus on you and those around you.

I would like to say that each person have their own life to live. Relatives aren’t the first thing on their minds. And relationships do depend on how close one feels to the other. I mean I care for my brother but he doesn’t feel the same. That is okay. He has his life to live with his family and work and social etc. We don’t live in the same city. But, I try to reach out. And many times he is busy and doesn’t reply. Just got to realize you aren’t in their face so they can ignore you if they want. Even though you would never do the same to them?? Parents favor one child more than the other? Is it natural? Yes. Does it hurt to feel this way? Yes. But, we are grown ups. Moved out and moved away. Maybe time to get your own life going? Invest in yourself and those around you?? I don’t know for sure. I am still feeling my way around too. Sometimes it hurts to think about it. But lucky me, no brains. And am very forgetful.

Hello Anita,

It is important to get rest when feeling sick. Drink plenty of fluids. It helps to flush out the bad stuff in the blood.
Hope you will be feeling better soon. Googled and it said a week to ten days for common cold. Stay warm and hopefully you have someone to watch over you. Take care of the daily stuff so you can rest.

Hello Mollie,

Sorry for just jumping in. Only read the last post. Cutting carbs? And no more chocolate and cake?? OMG has the world come to an end. No cake and no chocolate? I understand cutting carbs due to my type 2 diabetes. Got to watch the carbs cause it all turns to sugar in the blood. But, pasta, rice, potatoes are all carbs and I love that food. I wish you good luck in your endeavors. The worse part was no sugar in my morning coffee. Sounds like you are in school? A noble tract of life to better oneself. The toughest part of that is to find oneself interested in the subject of study. Sorry for the rambling.

Hope you and everyone near and far will have a great New Year. All year long!!