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  • in reply to: Zen Story #459842
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    This is strange that you should like these Chinese songs. But, that song is just off the mark for me.
    Guessing it is missing that emotional draw for me.
    Try this one, “y outube.com/watch?v=3P6uuUvEhAs”
    It is called Norwegian Forest. It has a weird blues flavor to it.
    And, it tends to stick in my head. Even though it is in Chinese and I don’t know what they are singing.

    Oh, I liked your post to Peter. Umm, not really bilingual. Just know a few phrases.
    Enough to ask where the bathroom is. Otherwise, I use the international indicator.
    My index finger to point at what I need. Shake my head when I mean no. LOL.

    What drew me to Buddhism? Wasn’t so much Buddhism as it was Zen Buddhism.
    The Zen stories which highlight the mind’s understanding.
    The way they illustrate the way we think and live our lives.
    Meditation brings about a peace not found elsewhere in life.
    Well, other than when one is immersed deeply in a single activity

    What drew you to Buddhism?

    in reply to: Zen Story #459791
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    You actually listened to them?? Most people would just let it go since it is in a different language. When I first heard them, I did not understand the words but felt the emotion from the songs. When I went to listen to the music by the nun, at first, it was not to my taste. Then gave it a second chance and it reflects a different mood.

    One which I wasn’t ready for. I learned Cantonese first and you would think it would help in learning Mandarin but it doesn’t really. My mind just doesn’t want to process Mandarin. I tried learning Spanish in High School. Didn’t take. I spent about a month in Puerto Rico but didn’t interact with the people there. To learn a language, it really takes using it daily. My niece learned Spanish. Cantonese, not so much. Weird?

    No one else in my family is into Buddhism as I am. Strange how one can live in similar surroundings and still grow up with different views??

    in reply to: Zen Story #459762
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    Another song that I drown myself in is Starwish By Cecilia Cheung. Here is the YouTube video.
    “y o utube.com/watch?v=qKb8oKwZMHI” it has the English translation. For me, I just listen to the song
    And get the feelings from the melody. I don’t understand Mandarin. And not especially in songs.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459742
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    “In My Song” is a little too new for me.
    心太軟 (Heart Too Soft) is closer to the time which I courted my wife.
    YouTube video with translation “y o utube.com/watch?v=xgKCRLS9ZS8”
    I put in spaces to keep the system from detecting a URL.
    And even then the song was a little old.
    Richard Marx’s “Right Here Waiting For You” was a good one.
    Cause we started a long distance relationship.
    I would see her once a year. Finally married her in 1996
    And she came to the states in 1999. Yeah, I am still in a mood.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459725
    Thomas168
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    Hello Peter,

    Peter said, “I often wonder how the words – the world is complicated – have shaped my own experience. I suspect the world has always been the world and that my thoughts create the complications.”

    There are two monks looking at the flag on the pole. The first monk says the flag is moving. The second monk says the wind is moving. The master says, “It is not the wind that moves, and it is not the flag that moves. It is your mind that moves.”

    To me, it is the mind that creates everything in our lives. Of course, that doesn’t mean we should believe that there are no outside forces in our lives. Strange how we can believe that we have free will and yet there is such things such as destiny.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459713
    Thomas168
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    Hi Alessa,

    Hope all is well with you. Thanks for you kind words. Will try to take your advice to practice more. Lately, I am just obsessed with listening to love songs. Some songs make me feel like my heart is broken again. Other times, the song plants a heart ache. A yearning for love. Getting pushed and pulled. Sometimes it feels good to drown in the songs. Songs that bring up memories. Songs on the radio and I just sing along. Never meant to memorize the songs but they just come pouring out.

    So, this Tuesday night, please be in a good space. Please be healthy, happy and safe.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459703
    Thomas168
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    Hello Peter,

    Three bows and a thank you.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459695
    Thomas168
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    Got no story today, just thinking about the Buddha’s thoughts about suffering. First, life comes with it hard hitting traumas. It is unavoidable. That is the first arrow. It hurts. We feel the pain. The emotional scar and physical one lingers. But, we continue to suffer more cause by fighting and reliving the first arrow. It may not make sense to live this way but that is how most of us are. I know I constantly remember things which I regret (either doing or receiving). It arises and I fight to let them go. I think it gives them more strength when I fight. Just got to let it go. Anyway, I know it is easier said then done. Life have proven that. However, I still work on myself and try to learn to do better.

    in reply to: I am not the person I used to be #459694
    Thomas168
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    Hello Caroline,

    I am sorry for the way life has treated you. But, I do want to minimize the trauma. I want to emphasize the rest of your life. There is still plenty of time to have a great life. You feel this way because you are stuck in the past. Moving forward is the only answer. I am not good at giving advice and often am wrong in my approach to things. But, if you stay stuck regretting life or just going over and over the past trauma then how do you live a good life? What lives rent free in your head?

    Yeah, I am terribly sorry for all the stuff gone by in your past. Can you find it in yourself to forgive and let go the past? So, you aren’t the person you use to be. Why not become a better person? Make your choices for a better life. Okay time for the weird one (me) to shut up now. (

    in reply to: Zen Story #459599
    Thomas168
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    Thanks for the story. It is a real chin scratcher. Or a temple tapper with the forefinger. I think it is better to be happy with what one has rather than to wish for the greener side of the hill.

    in reply to: Happiness & Suffering #459598
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    Thanks for the words of wisdom. If one spend a lot of time in self observation then one can learn that there are choices to be made. It is how one responds to life’s challenges and opportunities that make life a happy one or not. Sure, loving someone makes life good and losing that person makes us mourn. But, it is choosing where we decide to dwell that makes it true suffering or just a normal part of life. A person can either drown in their sorrow or mourn and move on. This doesn’t diminish the value of the loss. It just doesn’t control us. I hope all is well with you. And this reflection is only a moment of clarity and understanding.

    Thomas168
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    I tried to go to the RealESALetter.com and my antivirus software said it was a dangerous site and prevented my computer from connecting. So, I do not know what to say. Just please be careful while online.

    in reply to: Zen Story #459507
    Thomas168
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    Hello Alessa,

    I thought you were replacing an old dishwasher. Not installing a new one. Depending on the model. Does it go into and under the countertop? Plumbing usually means setting up one cold water feed line as the dishwasher has a water heating unit inside it. Do you have copper lines? What size are they? 1/2 inch? I used a pipe cutter. Don’t forget to ream the cut opening for better water flow. Then I use Sharkbite connectors rather than soldering. Then I use Pex plastic water pipes as it is easy to lay out the water lines. Just have to make sure the Pex water lines are held in place. If you need a hard point for connection to washer then you can go back to copper. Or just stay with copper. Then the drain needs a connection. YouTube is fantastic for getting the general idea of what is needed or what to expect. I have put in a small room and full bathroom in the garage. (no permit, no license). Did electrical and plumbing myself. It has been working fine for the past 4 years. I did try to follow building code as much as I know about it. No problems so far.

    If you can change a light switch then you can put in a GFCI outlet to protect against ground faults or short circuits. (Not sure about the UK) Toughest part may be to connect the water line to the washer. Do you have access to under the floor? Basement? Crawl space?

    Oh, my car is just waiting for the spray paint and the light assembly. Should be done by the weekend.

    I hope everything else is going well for you. Sounds like the kid is growing up fast (from the other posts). Take care.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #459497
    Thomas168
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    Hello Tom,

    So sorry to hear about the miscarriage. It happened to me and my wife. Totally messed us up. But, we tried again and finally had our daughter. I hope everything goes better the next time you try. Rough times Good luck.

    in reply to: Parent Life #459492
    Thomas168
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    Liked, ..

    Wishing you and your boy a successful start of a new big chapter in life! ❤️

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