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  • July 24, 2026 at 12:12 pm #459580
    Caroline
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    I saw this sentence: how did you survive it? I didn’t. I am somebody else.

    I was just thinking about all the good and bad times in my life. there were couple of good. but mosly bad that traumatized me. That’s exactly how I feel: like I am not the same person and I really mean that. I use to love Paris, early mornings, watching deer from the train window and now I don’t even remember things I loved. I am angry. and I gave up on people and on life. I am 40 and I feel like I am doing summary of my life because it has ended for me. I don’t know how to better rephrase what I am feeling. If any of you want to share how you feel I would be glad to read that. thank you.

    July 24, 2026 at 12:56 pm #459582
    anita
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    Dear Caroline,

    It sounds like life has hurt you so deeply that you feel like the person you used to be is gone. When pain lasts a long time, it can erase old joys and leave you feeling angry, tired, and disconnected from yourself.

    You’re not strange for feeling this way — it’s what happens when someone carries too much for too long. You’re still here, even if you don’t feel like the same person, and you’re not alone in this.

    If you want to share more, I’m here to listen.

    🌿 Anita

    July 24, 2026 at 2:05 pm #459585
    Alessa
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    Hi Caroline

    I don’t want to minimise what you’ve been through, because you have been through a lot. 🩵

    In some way or other, we all change. The only way forward is to keep changing.

    Do you ever feel glimmers? Little moments of happiness, where your senses focus on something?

    In my experience, the main way to overcome trauma is to mindfully foster positive experiences, with others and whatever it is you want. If you don’t know, maybe try to find it?

    A lot of my friends are in their 70s and 80s. So you are half way. Still a lot of life to live.

    I am busy, tired and in pain. But things could be worse. I went to acupuncture and that helped. I have food, shelter and loved ones. I’m lucky. 🩵

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