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  • in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450737
    Tom
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    Thanks Anita,

    I needed to hear that, today has been a tough day with quite a few issues that have made me doubt myself even more. I am waiting at the airport now, will hopefully have a good sleep when home tonight and then do my best tomorrow and hope it goes well.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450698
    Tom
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    Thanks Anita,

    I am trying to prepare but away again until late Thursday and the presentation is Friday so very tricky.

    I will do more later and on plane home tomorrow if I can. I will do my best and at the end of the day, that is all I can do.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450583
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    The trip is over and I am returning back to the UK (arriving Monday AM). I then go away again tuesday – thursday just in Europe this time ahead of a big work presentation on Friday in the UK to 100+ people. This is something i have never done on this scale before and i haven’t really had time to prepare due to the travel etc. If i felt prepared, I feel like I would feel ok about this but i’m anxious due to lack of prep. I will try and do what I can this week to get ready but will be tricky with the travel again.

    I will likely write again in the build up and hope i will feel better come next week when a little bit of normality will return to my schedule.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450487
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, it was Singapore time on my post. I am here now until Saturday.
    Am doing my best and trying to do what I can and stay positive while here even through the uncertainty and lack of structure.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450446
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, I will try and explore a little. I arrived last night, guess what I don’t like is that the trips aren’t as organzied as I’m used to with a planned schedule etc. I have a few tasks to do here but not tons etc and it makes me miss home

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450376
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, I will try and enjoy any aspect of it i can and it’s a new country that I have not been too before. I do worry about not interacting too much when there as i have no real allys as mentioned above but I will do what I can and do my best.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450199
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I head away with work next week to Singapore so anxious about that as a long way and different time zone to my partner back home. As always, I will do my best.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450128
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Yes, i will try and do this and continue to be myself. I have always tried to do this where i can and have always treated people with respect and how I would like to be treated since the day I joined.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #450039
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Hope you have had a good weekend. There is a HR department but that hasn’t really helped. There was a team away day etc. I don’t feel like anyone ever made an effort with me and perhaps I haven’t also. It’s a big team where people often travel so it makes it trickier to bond etc. There is also a lack of leadership and people get involved in work and tasks which they probably shouldn’t.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449981
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, that makes sense. I do try and accept it for now and do my best in the job to learn and take the experience I can to help me in the future. I guess I just want to feel more purpose with it.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449929
    Tom
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    Trapped is how I feel because of the work situation. I don’t feel like I have ever settled in this role, made allies etc and I rarely feel myself when I’m there and get anxious about lots of things to do with the job.

    I have a good salary in the role and a long notice which adds to the feeling of trapped as that makes it tricky to find another suitable role and form an exit plan in a timely manner. We have a mortgage and bills so I know I can’t just walk away and I guess that adds to the feeling.

    I keep positive where I can and active and all of that stuff helps but deep down the feelings are still there.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449853
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks for the kind words Anita, they are greatly appreciated.

    It completely makes sense what you say and will continue to try and shake these feelings and not let it define me. I know it’s just a job at the end of the day but it’s the pressures of modern society etc that create that feeling of us being trapped.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449751
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    I do appreciate the time you have taken to input on this over the years.

    Thanks,
    Tom

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449733
    Tom
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    Hey Anita,

    The full extent is just that deep down I know the role isnt for me but we need the salary to live etc. I am always keeping lookout for alternative jobs but there isn’t too much out there. We have savings but i don’t want to use them while I can continue to try my best at work until something else comes up. I have thought about re-training but more than anything would like to find a job and environment that I enjoy.

    Enjoy your weekend.

    in reply to: Struggling to settle in new role #449642
    Tom
    Participant

    Hey Anita,

    Still battling on at work and doing my best. Always keeping my eye on the job market but it’s tough out there at the moment with little options at the level I need.

    I am taking all the positive habits out of work such as fresh air, exercise etc but as we spend so much time at work it does still get on top of me at times. I will keep ploughing on but just wanted to write this down.

    My partner and friends know some of the feelings I have but not to the full extent.

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