Hi Anita,

We both agreed it was going well, she spent the night, we had a great time and then the whole next day too.

When I saw her the time after that, we continued to get to know each other and talk etc but I didn’t feel the need to ask about exclusivity, how it was going etc again. Especially as we had such a good time the previous occasion.

Hopefully I get another chance like you say and I have no choice but to me more up front, for my peace of mind at least. If I don’t, guess I will be left wondering what I did wrong.

Because we had that chat on the previous get together where we both said it was going well etc but didn’t want to label it. Didn’t feel to bring it up again on the next get together.

Hi Anita,

I need to see her face to face I think so we can have another chat. Last time we did and it went well and we wanted to keep it going without labelling it. Since then the contact has been less though which has made me a worry a little.

I don’t want to scare her off with too much pressure etc but need to know that she isn’t slowing stepping away I guess. I will have a think on how to do this. Hopefully I hear from her over the next few days and we can meet in person or at worst, chat on the phone. I won’t bombard her on anything in between, will just wait to hear from here. Will try and keep my mind off it with work etc. Just a shame as thought it had the potential to be the start of something.

Hi Anita,

Quick update for you. We spent Friday and Saturday together and had a great couple of days.  I was honest with her about liking her etc and she said the same. We don’t want to label it as anything etc at this stage but I am content with things now as know where I stand and have nothing to worry about. We can just continue spending time with each other and getting to know each other.

Hi Anita,

No, nothing happened on the dates that I am aware off. It’s been going well. She has been away with work and we have still been speaking just not as frequently. I am hoping to be able to see her on Friday and will find out more then I guess.

Hi Anita,

I think it would be something along the lines of:

I hope you are ok and everything is ok with the bump. The little one might have even arrived by now. If she has, huge congratulations.

I know you’ve had a lot going on and I didn’t expect us to speak all the time but we did say we would remain friends and then I tried to reach out a few times but nothing ever materialised. I’m fine with that, I just would have preferred you to be honest with me. I really enjoyed the time we spent getting to know each other and opened up around you and think you did with me too. I would have been fine with us not speaking etc but think I would have just liked to know so I had complete closure.

There really is no ill feeling at all from me and I wish you all the best with the new chapter.

If I’m being honest, I’m not sure its a good idea. I don’t gain anything from it. Just writing it helped. Life goes on for both of us and the above was just a small part of it.

Thanks Anita,

That’s what I’ll do. I know someone is out there, jsut got to try and meet them somehow now!

Hi Anita,

She reached out to me last night via message and just asked if we are still friends.

I replied and said yes and we exchanged a couple of short messages. I actually feel better as a result of this as it has allowed me to see there is no ill feeling from her towards me and visa versa.