Hi Anita,

They have come back and offered me a revised offer.

I would now be a direct employee of the the company for a fixed contract until the end of the year. I would be entitled to holiday pay and all the other benefits.

The decision is now back with me and if I view it as worth the risk.

Thanks

Hi Anita,

The plot thickened over the last few days. I verbally accepted the offer but then found out from the company that in order to process payment it would need to be done via an umbrella company or I set up a ltd company in my name.

I wasn’t aware of this process at all so think it may have made the decision for me.

Hi Anita,

I believe i would find another job if needed but I would obviously be under some pressure to do so.

I do not think I would get fired from my current position but I also don’t believe I can move forward there or expect a pay rise any time soon. It is just secure income.

The new offer is not secure income I guess and that is what it boils down to. Most family and friends have told me to go for it but I also think sensibly and think of all possible outcomes.

I guess a little bit of me is also daunted as I have been with my current role for some time and am comfortable there and know it inside, out.

Hi Anita,

Thanks for your measured response. All of your points are valid and why I know it feels like a good fit. I think the concern is just leaving a secure position for one that isn’t. But i know you have to take risks sometimes and this could be one of those times.

Hi Anita,

1) Yes, I would be leaving my current position and unable to return as I would be giving them my notice.

2) Yes, i will be learning new skills and I think it will benefit my resume as my current working history is all with one employer.

3) It will involve taking a train. And it would probably be 1-1.5 hours longer than it is currently.

Hi Anita,

We both agreed it was going well, she spent the night, we had a great time and then the whole next day too.

When I saw her the time after that, we continued to get to know each other and talk etc but I didn’t feel the need to ask about exclusivity, how it was going etc again. Especially as we had such a good time the previous occasion.

Hopefully I get another chance like you say and I have no choice but to me more up front, for my peace of mind at least. If I don’t, guess I will be left wondering what I did wrong.

Because we had that chat on the previous get together where we both said it was going well etc but didn’t want to label it. Didn’t feel to bring it up again on the next get together.

Hi Anita,

I need to see her face to face I think so we can have another chat. Last time we did and it went well and we wanted to keep it going without labelling it. Since then the contact has been less though which has made me a worry a little.

I don’t want to scare her off with too much pressure etc but need to know that she isn’t slowing stepping away I guess. I will have a think on how to do this. Hopefully I hear from her over the next few days and we can meet in person or at worst, chat on the phone. I won’t bombard her on anything in between, will just wait to hear from here. Will try and keep my mind off it with work etc. Just a shame as thought it had the potential to be the start of something.