The last time I saw her face to face went fine and we didn’t speak about anything serious, just had some food etc. The time before that, was when I asked her how she thought it was going etc. She said well but it was in no rush to label it as official boyfriend/girlfriend etc. She stayed over that time and we spent the whole of the following day together.

We use to message daily and still have been to a certain extent but the messages are less frequent and engaging. She has been away with work and a family issue but we haven’t seen each other for a week now and have no concrete next date set.

I asked her yesterday via message when she was free and called her. She responded to message really late and said that she hadn’t seen her phone for a few hours and would let me know but she is busy over the next few days.

Hi Anita,

Another quick update as I have had a bad week with worrying and overthinking again.

We got together last week and had a good time but since then contact has been quite sporadic. She has had some family stuff going on which she told me about but we don’t have any concrete dates lined up which isn’t nice. I’ve asked her today about meeting again but have yet to hear back.

Hi Anita,

We had a phone conversation last night which went well and set my mind at ease I think. I should be seeing her on friday and will look to clarify then face to face. Will keep you updated.

We have known each other for around 6 weeks so in the early stages of dating which is the part I always find the worst.

It has been going well, we have been getting on and had around 9-10 dates in that time, cooked for each other etc.

It is just that over the last week or so I have felt she is taking a step back. The tone of her messages seems to have changed. We have still messaged daily, even if only a couple of quick exchanges. Because of work commitments etc for both of us, it will be at least 10 days before we can meet again which is why I probably have time to over analayse. I don’t like games, if I like someone i like them and if i don’t i would tell them so everyone knows where they stand. I think when we meet again I will just be upfront and ask her how she feels it’s all going.

I do meditate and try and practice gratitude daily too but I still do find myslef overthinking at times.

Hi Anita.

There is a small part of me that is frustrated by her actions and wants to send a letter of some description so I get closure.

I know this probably won’t achieve much so do you think it is a pointless exercise?

Hi Anita,

Brief update. I reached out to her a few days ago to see how she was doing and make sure she was ok?

I had no response to this. I won’t reach out again but just thought it was odd she made a point of saying we would stay friends to then ignore me. I was a little annoyed at first but in reality I know she has more important stuff going on and I just need to move on fully.

I am not worried as such but as i was there along the pregnancy feel i should send a congratulations message when the time arrives.

I will play it by here and see how i feel when the time arrives in 6 weeks or so.

Thanks for your replies, much appreciated.

I don’t know that she will think that. It’s just in my nature to think that she would but I would think that about anyone, not just specifically her if that makes sense.