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• This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by VJ.

Hi k.k.,

Mark has suggested a good technique for forgiveness.

Along with that I suggested you to practice Ho’oponopono to help restore harmony within yourself and with others.

i] www.upliftconnect.com/hawaiian-practice-of-forgiveness/

ii] www.laughteronlineuniversity.com/practice-hooponopono-four-simple-steps/

Best wishes,

VJ

Hi Jim,

Life is really an illusion.

(Image credits: http://homepages.inf.ed.ac.uk/amos/visualillusion.html)

You may be seeing a person looking at you in this picture. But I am seeing a person looking sideways. Or vice versa.

Just like your peers, you think that your peers are their own parent’s children. This is an illusion. What is the guarantee that today I am the blood child of my parents. May be in the baby ward in the hospital when there are so may new born babies I got exchanged by the nurse with some other baby and today I am in another house and not of my own parents. In fact in our country this happens so frequently that the mothers request the nurse to tie a band on her baby’s wrist as soon as s/he is born. Even then there is a problem. What if she forgot to do that and eventually at the baby ward tied the band to the wrong baby. Or what if she remembered but gave it to her colleague and she tied it to the wrong baby. There is absolutely no guarantee of anything at all in this world. It is just our perception. It is just that I think that I trust that I may be the child of my parents. And it is just that my parents think that I was the one who was born to them. Of course there may be tests to confirm this. Then I ask what if the blood dna samples got interchanged in the laboratory. The list of this illusion of life can go on and on. I can only trust this illusion of life. And none of that matters whether you are the blood child of your parents or not. Irrespective of who my biological parents are, I am here in this world for the exchange of energies with other people, for the dance of life forms in this universe. These energies are nothing but compassion, forgiveness, honesty, truth, joy, enthusiasm, serenity, hope, gratitude, kindness, cheerfulness, pride, confidence, inspiration and of course Love.

As a superficial example, if either you or may be your partner is not able to conceive a child for some medical reason. Doctors now leave you with an only option of adoption, if you ever need a child. Your partner (or you) desperately out of longing, out of love, for a child, now need a baby. In this case you are going to think of the only option of adopting a baby. It hardly matters whether you are that baby or not. It is just a way, a medium, for you to come into this world and play out the interchange of energies. And you are so very lucky to have a wonderful adoptive parents as you mentioned. There are so many people on this forum stating about their problems with their dad, their mother , their “biological” family.

Whatsoever may be your Life-situation you are that piece without which the totality of life is not at all complete and that’s the exact reason the Divine has created you. If I tell you God created the Universe out of Love “how remarkable it is that God looked at all the wonders of creation and realized the missing piece was you.”

(Image source: http://www.techseen.com)

Take care,

VJ

• This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by VJ.

Hi JFlow,

1) I am going to suggest you the same thing that Mark suggested.

“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:

At the first gate, ask yourself “Is is true?”

At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”

At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

~ Rumi

Before saying anything allow your mind to pass through each of the 3 gates and say it only when there is a YES at each gate. In due course of time and practice, it will become fast enough to pass through these filters before saying anything.

Save the below image and keep it in your mobile and refer to it quite often.

2) Also I suggest you to take a look at the 1st among the ‘Four Agreements’

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

More details on how to use the 1st Agreement is in the below link and also in other places of the web.

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Best wishes,

VJ

Hi Matt,

Each of your questions are very well explained and answered in both the above links so I suggest to go through the entire article.

At the same time do not allow the analytical egoic mind to ask you questions whether it will work or not. Simply do the practice and the rest will follow.

Regards,

VJ

Hi gj,

Java is not one of the technologies to easily code in. And like you said nor there are going to be many resources on the web that give answers easily.
So what you are facing is legitimate. It is not that something is easy and still you cannot do it.

It is usually the fear of shame or embarrassment that causes more emotional pain than the actual problem itself. What if I tell you to drop that shame? Ok, let others see your flaws. What if you become so vulnerable about your flaws that nothing more is left to be shameful about? What is remaining to be shameful about when you are brutally shameful about all of your flaws? That is the time when you begin to be more creative. All of what you have mentioned about your definition of “failure” is imaginary. They are your mental constructs. They are mind movies. They are not true. What is the worst thing that will happen if you lose this job? The worst thing? Are you going to come on the streets begging for a living?
Have you ever seen a guy who cannot code in Java and has come down to the streets begging? Ok you said you can survive the income part. So you are more worried about supporting your parents and sibling. You said your family needs you. But you are always there for your family right! Where are you going? You mentioned you can survive the income if you lose your job, so then what is the problem and how are you not for you family? Even if the extreme happens – losing a job is really not a negative thing. There are several hundred companies that I have seen who are willing to recruit people who are laid off, on career gaps, and are willing to join immediately. It has become a normal thing now.

Don’t keep an outcome oriented approach. Focus more on the process itself. Do whatever it is best that you can do just for that day. Live in day-tight compartments. When you go to sleep ask yourself even if I may have not got the required outcome, have I at least given my best shot today? If the answer is yes that’s good. If the answer is no then give your even best the next day, but without focusing on the outcome and only on doing the actual process that ultimately leads to the outcome. Without being in the valley you cannot reach the mountain right? How can you even identify a mountain if there were no valleys. Its all part of the game of life.

“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle

Focus more on just that tiny one thing that you have at your hand and your outcome will automatically be the desired one because the outcome is just the result of those tiny little moments/tasks.

Again if you say that how will I get a desired outcome if I am not efficiently able to do the process itself. This again means that your focus has drifted on the outcome.

If you feel no gratitude mentally why not from tonight before going to bed deliberately list out 5 things your are grateful about. It need not be from the bottom of your heart if you are not able to at first. Do this for the next 21 days. If you think you have  reached a stage where you think you do not have anything now to write to be grateful about – How about being thankful to God for your eyes to be able to read this right now? Like them you will find so many things in the vastness of this Universe.

Like you I am also from a middle class family….in fact was in a lower middle class family and the only source of income was me. At the beginning of my career I was working on a subject which was extremely frustrating to me. No knowledge about how to do anything. Every minute of thought was about leaving the job. Nobody to help, nowhere to go. But gradually in due course of time I sailed through. Today its the same work I am doing since over a decade for multiple companies and everything is going ok. I sometimes feel thankful for that struggle. It is only the initial period that is difficult. This is a routine thing that happens to everyone in their own area of work. Don’t take it seriously. Give your best, whatever possible you can.

Your boat in the storm will struggle to move but it will not drown.

Warm Regards,

VJ

Hi ZC,

Yes, when someone or something is on our mind for a long time it is all karmic. To repay your karmic debts and settle your karmic accounts you need to dissolve the karmic links with that person, thing or place.

Do both of these ‘energy healing exercises’ and see yourself finding peace in this situation and getting back towards your current partner.

1) From what you have explained it appears you still have the energetic cords (ties) of attachment with this person. These cords are invisible since they are at an energetic level. They are also called as psychic ties and they are especially in relationships. The cords of attachment need to be dissolved.

Please go through the below links to know more on what it is and what to do-

Cutting Cords Energetically

Calling upon Archangel Michael with his golden sword is a very famous way of cutting negative cords-
http://www.nikkiboruch.com/how-to-cut-energetic-cords-with-archangel-michael

http://www.amagicalworld.com/index.php/energy-healing/etheric-cord-cutting

http://www.wikihow.com/Work-With-Archangel-Michael

There are many ways of doing this. Simply do a web search on “cutting energetic cords of attachment”

If you prefer something visual then there are videos on YouTube too.

2) Forgiveness Exercise:

Format: I _______ FORGIVE YOU _____________, YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME, THANK YOU.
Example: I FORGIVE YOU , YOU PLEASE FORGIVE ME AND RELEASE ME, THANK YOU.

Chant the above as many times as possible. You can do this whenever you are not able to do the 1st one….or even when you are cooking, washing dishes, standing in a queue, lying down on the bed, or whenever those thoughts about him bother you.

Warm Regards,

VJ

Hello Miss Healing,

Below is a channel for the guided meditations you might be looking for.
(www.youtube.com/user/TheHonestGuys/videos)

I have searched the ones relevant to what you inquired for and they are listed below.
But I suggest you to open the homepage mentioned above and search for the ones that suits your situation the most. Use the search lens icon beneath the red subscribe button and NOT the main top search as that will take you to the entire YouTube search.

GUIDED MEDITATION: Ease Anxiety & Worry
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnnS2-8t59c)

GUIDED MEDITATION – Banishing Depression
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=2nV-v8zXpH0)

GUIDED MEDITATION – Anxiety Relief
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_jcEpwKQXc)

GUIDED MEDITATION for Anxiety and Stress
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ0eCONKhxU)

Mindfulness Meditation – Guided 10 Minutes
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=6p_yaNFSYao)

Mindfulness Meditation – Guided 20 Minutes
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=jobVHhlMmRo)

Mindfulness Breathing Guided Meditation 10 Minutes
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=B6Mhna3RjoI)

SHORT GUIDED MINDFULNESS MEDITATION – Music Mindfilness
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=f1pDswSyrrk)

MINDFULNESS – 3 MINUTE MEDITATION
(www.youtube.com/watch?v=evJHBLldMsE)

The visuals and the music are beautiful. These are best used via headphones. But since you want to do it along with your partner, you can either keep a tablet pc or a laptop in front of both of you with some good speakers and do it together. You don’t need to teach him anything as Rick’s soothing guided voice will do the rest.

At a later stage both of you can do it with one end of the wired headphone in your ear and the other end into his 🙂

Take care,
VJ