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  • November 25, 2018 at 10:37 am #248491
    Victor
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    Hi Eliana,

    This was a very nice advice from you. It really cleared a lot of things for me. It surely is very helpful.

    But what do you have to say about the fact that the guy’s behavior is very much dependent on his needs. If he has some selfish motive from me he will keep in touch otherwise he will not. I have observed this behavior a couple of times. More than that, he has lied to me a few times when he was calling the other woman friend we have in common to his house and did not inform me when I was physically present at his house.

    I came to know about that when I left and the woman told me that while talking to me a few moments later.

    November 25, 2018 at 9:43 am #248471
    Victor
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    Thanks everyone for your lovely advice. @kahani – can you translate that quote in english, I do not understand hindi. Thanks 🙂

    August 24, 2018 at 8:52 am #222855
    Victor
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    Thanks Anita for the help. I hope this turns out well and I do not get hurt again.

    August 23, 2018 at 9:33 am #222737
    Victor
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks so much for your reply. It was a very helpful advice. I sometimes act impulsively and then regret in the end. I do not know how do I control my habit of not trusting new friendships. I just feel like not to get involved in any friendship and just live my life alone because I think everyone will leave me in the end.

     

    June 14, 2018 at 9:39 am #212475
    Victor
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    So, there was another event a few days back. It was an important day for me, I had a party on completion of my MBA and I had invited this person. This person did not show up and when my other friends asked him if he is coming he was showing as if he was not invited by me. Although, I had invited him 2 times. It was an important day for me and as a friend he should have showed up. I got super angry and told him how insensitive and a disgusting person he was.

    Do you think I should talk to him once?

    June 14, 2018 at 8:27 am #212461
    Victor
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes you are right. It seems more than a friend he is an enemy. Thanks for your help.

    June 13, 2018 at 10:56 am #212361
    Victor
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    Thanks Mark and Anita,

    Mark, I totally agree with your point on friendships and how to recognize friends. I get too much engrossed in friendships and usually trust the wrong person. If a person does something nice for me a few times I start thinking he is a very loving and caring person and I trust them blindly.

    Anita, your post was a eye opener for me. I really think that you are right about he trying to feel superior to others. I have seen pride in my friend at certain occasions. One such example was when he tried to trap a girl knowing that the girl had a boyfriend. He used to think that he can win over any girl and make them leave their boyfriend for him. More disturbing was the fact that he himself had a relationship and never used to accept the relationship in public in front of friends. Regarding the bad words, when I get angry I tend to say anything and in that time I have said things like he is not a good friend etc.

    June 13, 2018 at 8:22 am #212351
    Victor
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    Hi Anita,

    Thanks for your reply. There have been several occasions where he tries to prove himself superior. Recently, I made a trip to Bali and bought some gifts for him. When I met him, he did not appreciate the gifts. He was looking at them and trying to find bad things about the gifts. Then he was like you just spent this much on the gift that is so less. In the end he asked me approximately how much did I spend on the trip and when I gave him a breakdown he started to compare it with him trip and boasted about how much more he spend. I responded to all of this by just listening and nodding.

    I am confused whether or not he was my friend or not. I see some events where he supported me when I was in bad shape, he did not left my side during that time when I may have said him so much bad words. Thinking of that, I feel may be he was a true friend and it is my fault. On the other hand, I see a lot of other stuff like not taking out time to meet. If ever I ask him to meet me, all I hear are excuses like he is busy with work etc. More than that he tells me he has priorities for his family and work which makes me think am I the one who does not have priority for his work?

    There have been several other occasions but I never ever left the side from my friend. I have known him for 6 months and being alone in this city I have considered him as my family. No matter what has happened, I always took pride in my friendship and respected it. I did whatever I could for my friend with full heart. In the end I see a person who does not even cares to read my messages and reply me.

     

     

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