Good Morning Hang, from Wisconsin!

Leo Gura got me out of my head! I love his content! I have also learned there is a time to let go of “trying to figure it out” and JUST DO! Life can only be planned out so much. By “doing” and being active is the only way (that I found) to know what will work and will not. You will find your way. I am sure of that! Why? Because you are reaching out… exploring… learning…! Don’t pigeon hole yourself into what others do or say or how they live their life. It’s ok to not have a plan. The more I over thought and let my limiting beliefs take hold the longer I sat THINKING. Time kills all “deals”. Take what your learning and start applying. Who cares what you blog. Shit… blog exactly about what you wrote above! People relate to this stuff! Here is Leo’s link if your interested. I know it’s just more “stuff” in your toolbox but tools are good;)
https://www.actualized.org/articles/

Sincerely,
Keri

Thank you Mark:))

Hi M@ry… I think you nailed it by saying ” I also know that I probably chose my exes (I’ve only had 2) because they were social, with many friends, with clear goals in their lives, and with lots of security.. I know I need to be more like that… ” I am in the same darn position as you feeling this painful loneliness and seeking guys as you mention. I do not consider myself unsocial or having problems with creating fun by no means. For me I’m simply trying to rid myself of the highs and lows. I have a POSITIVE anxiety level when I’m around people but then such a NEGATIVE anxiety level when by myself. There is no gray area or happy medium for me. And that’s what I’m trying to manage a little better and learn more about… for myself anyway:) Thanks kindly for sharing you story… I simply can’t believe the posts on here and how much I can relate. I wish I would of started this learning process about myself years ago:) But I have realized I can’t live in my past nor think too far ahead on the future either. I guess I’m doing what I should be doing right now… And learning more about ME from great people like you all:) Thank you…

Hi Maria… Your story is soooo similar to my own. I can’t believe at 43 as I just started researching in the last two months and after years of failed relationships that I wasn’t the only one experiencing anxiety and ruminating thoughts. I wanted to know how you are doing please? Keri

PS… Thank you Eric for the advice. The advice I have read in the last two months have all very similar suggestions and themes. It’s amazing. I wish I would of started this learning process years ago but I also know I can’t look in the past nor the future and remain in the present:)