Hello lostcatlady,

I am too a 25 year old Asian who lives with her parents. I’ll like to share few insights over your situations:

• First of all regarding your job, make a list of your current skill set and upload your profile on LinkedIn. There are also many job search sites where you can upload your profiles and get job-related notifications. Remember, you don’t need a huge skill set to get a job. Be confident and presentable during job interview.  There are plenty of jobs for you. Just be vigilant and don’t hesitate in taking entry-level jobs. You’ll get opportunities to switch or get promoted various times if you work on improving your skill set.
• wao have no one to confide in and basically friendless and sometimes talking to your mother is simply not enough. I would advise you to not underestimate the power of small talk. A little chit chat about weather and food with your colleagues, your co-travellers(if you travel by public transport) will help you in various subtle ways.
• Now, this advice may sound weird but stay away from anime, J-pop and K-pop. I am a diehard fan of anime and kdramas and I get that they are deep and beautiful and speak to our soul but they are not real. I repeat, they are not real. It is alluring to get pulled in the life of these amazing and intelligent characters when everything in our life is so…lukewarm. I get it and it’s nothing wrong to escape for sometime but this just hides the symptoms of loneliness. This does not cure anything. We can’t escape from our life how much we try.
• Understand that not everyone has a passion burning inside her heart and It’s okay. It’s Okay to be clueless. You don’t have to love your work always but always understand and appreciate the practical benefits it brings in your life. Take work like work and keep the rest time purely for fun. You’ve written you are not good at sports, making stuff or creative writing. I am also awful at sports and making stuff. Just don’t think what you are good at- just think what you feel like. You can write micropoetry on instagram or write fanfiction or you can meditate. There’s no one who is not good at meditation. It will help you to accept your life and give clarity.
• Go for a walk.
• I know it’s frustrating. We are not happy but we are not sad either. It seems that everyone is on board the bus of life and we are left out on the road. But stay there. All this emptiness, all this restlessness will one day make sense.