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ZenithParticipantShe want to buys a to toy or key chain every week. My husband spoils her with all the toys.
ZenithParticipantMy husband and I are pretty friendly with her. She says she is bored at home and feels alone at home. She always want somebody to play with. I take her to parks or plan something during during the weekend. I am pretty busy during the week. My husband picks her up and helps with homework. Its just she keeps bugging or she doesnt listen to me when I say nicely for 3 or 4 times. Sometimes its hard for me to regulate my anger and I yell at her. I know I have to change this habit. Sometimes I get frustrated with her behavior.
ZenithParticipantI will look into the ODD stuff. I did tell my husband while ago about taking my kid to a therapist. He brushed off saying that its normal for kids to act like this at this age.
ZenithParticipantShe was a nice kid until 4 but then everything changed once she started kindergarten. She is very good at school with teachers and friends. Once she is back home she gets into the irritable mood. She doesnt help with anything. Like cleaning up the toys, cleaning up after she eats, She needs help with everything. If we ask for help she says its boring or its not her responsibility. The list goes on. My husband sent her to the neighbors house on Monday to play with T. T is busy with her friends during the weekend. They meet atleast once in a week. When the weekend starts she will start asking about T in the morning. I dont know what to do. My husband tried one weekend and the other weekend I tried. The neighbor was busy. My kiddo is obsessed about T. We used to spend the weekends together when my neighbor was close to me. So the kids. I am the one to blame and my kiddo got used to it. Now the neighbor spends the weekend with her new set of friends. She replaced us so easily!!
ZenithParticipantHey Anita.. How are you doing ? I am having a bad day today. Its the time of the month I guess. My little one is giving me a hard time now a days. Its been happening since last year once she started kindergarten. She keeps throwing fit for every little thing. From waking up in the morning to the time she goes to bed. She wants control over everything she does. Now a days she talks back and saying really mean things to us. Its hurting my mental health. Recently, I stopped talking to my neighbor as she is busy with her other set of friends/ group. She misses my neighbor kid. She wants to meet her everyday. Lets name her T. She did the same thing last year too. She always want to play with X everyday even after playing with kids at school. But X is also busy with her own friends. My kid keeps saying that she is alone and X as lot of friends .I put my ego aside, two weeks ago I asked my neighbor to send her kid to our house. She said yes and didnt send her. Later texted on saying that they slept. During the weekend, I wanted to arrange a play date and asked her again. She said she has plans with her group and she wants to go with them to the park as thier kids come along. It hurt me so much. I hate her now. I am trying to distance myslef from her. but my little one keeps reminding about T. I hate it. She has time to meet her group of friend very often like three four times in a week. But she doesnt have time for me now. I am trying to move on but my kid always reminds me about her.
ZenithParticipantLol..I didnt notice that.
ZenithParticipantI am doing OK.
ZenithParticipantHi Anita.. How are you doing ?Just thinking about you. How is life treating you ?
ZenithParticipantLol..Sometimes I am stubborn just like my kid. Only forgiving her will give me the peace. Thats what I noticed in the last couple of weeks. I was at peace when I forgave her but I still dont like her. I have to let go off the expectations too.
ZenithParticipantI dont want to do it.
ZenithParticipantlol. It sounds easy but hard to do.
ZenithParticipantBy forgiving her mistakes and still keep inviting her.
ZenithParticipantI have been with 3 friends till now. I feel like they change when they find someone new. So, I am tired of these friendships and this friend is really hard to let go . Yeah, I dont want her in my life if she dont want to put the effort of meeting us. Right now I am angry with her that she said yes to this group and no to us. This has happened in more than couple of instances. How do I regulate my anger now. By forgiving her ?
ZenithParticipantI tried doing that. I told myself that we are not close anymore and I should stop expecting from her. I was doing pretty okay until the incident happened yesterday. My husband still wants to be friends with them and keep inviting me all the time. I hate it. I dont want friends and he wants to be surrounded by people.
ZenithParticipantHe want to meet people and I want to stay away from people for a little while.
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