Hi Kumo,

First, always remember this: You are the gift.

I must say, I follow in your foot steps: I’m not good at gifts, either. You never really know a person until you have to give them a card or a gift.

Over the years, here are some ideas that have worked for me:

You say you are in college? Does your college have a bookstore? Books make great gifts. Do you have a favorite novel or book of poetry that changed your life? Share it with her. In fact, you may want to pass along your copy and get another copy for yourself. Personal items make lovely gifts. And don’t forget to write an inscription in the book.

When I graduated from school, my best friend gave me a journal. Not only have I been journaling my life for many years, I went back to school and learned calligraphy. That gift has meant so much to me. And a journal keeps on giving.

Photos make wonderful gifts. How about a photo of your college or a place where the two of you used to hang out. When I left my home of many years, my best friend gave me the menu of a restaurant we both enjoyed. I have the menu framed and it is now in my new home.

I love picture frames and incense. If you have a favorite quote or mantra, print it, frame it, and give it. I know she’ll love your thoughtfulness.

Your post really spoke to me, Kumo.

I wish you a wonderful day and an even lovelier tomorrow.

Write this down and say it everyday:

God, grant me the serenity
. to accept the
things I cannot change.

The courage to change
the things I can.

And the wisdom to know
the difference.