What I forgot to add is that because I saw him away from that setting, it was easier for me to believe that he was a lot stronger emotionally than what he was. I now wonder how much strength he took from our dynamic. Maybe he really believed he could convince them and make it all work. That saddens me, as I think he bore the stress of this on his shoulders for a long time and never told me because it was so important to him that I loved his family. If he’d told me what was going on, he was probably right in his thinking – I wouldn’t have been able to look at them in the same way again.