Dear Peppermint:

Reads to me that you were overwhelmed by your emotions last time and you are afraid you will lose control over your behavior next time you are overwhelmed in that context. And if you lose control and act jealous, then you will lose the younger friend you have made and your good experience in the choir.

When you wrote about the new girl: ” She is talkative, positive, active”- reads to me that you believe she is superior to you because you are not as talkative, positive and active. As if you are supposed to be like her and are less than for not being more talkative, positive and active.

The problem is in this belief of yours. It is okay to not be those three things. I personally do not enjoy talkative people. Not at all. I like people who talk less, way less than most people do.

And I personally do not like overly positive people. I like realistic people who see and acknowledge the way things are, not the way things are not.

And regarding active, I prefer people who are not so active. Because I am not.

So you see, there are people who would prefer you over the new girl in the choir.

Make peace with the way you are. Be true to yourself, the way you are now, the next moment and the next choir get together. When you see that girl, remind yourself that there are people (I am one) who prefer you over her, take deep breaths, do not rush, slow down and please do post again.

anita