Dear meg:

You want to tell him that it is not fair to him to waste his time with you when you are NOT fully invested in the marriage anymore, correct?

I don’t think he is an innocent child in this marriage. His behavior indicates that he is beyond caring for what is fair or not in HIS own behavior. And he is beyond caring for the quality of the marriage.

Again, does it matter what you say? Or is it that you might as well just move your lips without a sound, or mumble incomprehensible sounds, same affect?

anita