Dear Azouz:

By the “relationship I was involved with”- you mean with the virtual girlfriend, the object of your obsession, correct?

This is what I think of this relationship, ongoing interactions and ruminations- it is an obsession. If I read any more about it and replied to you about it, I would be encouraging this obsession of yours. That will not be helpful to you or to me. And therefore, I will not engage in it anymore. If you share about your childhood, your relationship with your mother (and father)- I will read and reply to that, because I believe the issues there are fueling this current obsession.

As a child you felt defenseless, so you wrote. I think you are trying to gain a sense of control by micro-managing this virtual girlfriend’s life. To gain a true sense of control over you and your life, look where it can be helpful (earlier life experiences), and not where it cannot possibly helpful to you  (this obsession).

anita