Anita, indeed, my therapist explained me how this is relevant to my relationship with my father. That I grew up with a father that never approached me or expressed his love for me and that I was always afraid* or distant with him. I mean I do love him but our relationship is not deep at all and I never feel comfortable being close to him, unlike with my mother. When the therapist explained this theory I automatically identified and recognized the signs but I dont know how I can heal that or where to begin.