Hi Hemingway,

The right therapist is worth his/her weight in gold. Unfortunately, there are many bad ones. What I would do is:

1. Ask your friends/family if they know of anyone. You might be surprised that the person you would swear would never see a therapist does/did indeed go to one! The same name mentioned by different sources and/or the one most enthusiastically talked about is your guy.

2. Limit it to ten sessions. This is so if you hate it you will keep showing up through the discomfort to perhaps get to a breakthrough. And if you love it you can then reevaluate. Because some people get “stuck” . If you’re seeing the same guy for ten years, how much is it really helping? That’s just my opinion, take it with a grain of salt.

Good Luck,

Inky