Dear Jessica:

You brought up several issues in your thread. For my better understanding I list these and ask:

1) About your friend: “she puts me down whenever she can”- a friend who puts you down is not a friend. Better to not associate with a person who puts you down.  Can you give an example of how she puts you down?

2) “I go out of my way to help them but no one appreciates anything I do, nothing is ever good enough”- can you give an example or two of you going out of your way to help others and why you figure it wasn’t good enough?

3) “if I say anything back (to defend my self) I say it as politely as possible, but then all of a sudden I’m the bad person”- again, an example of how you defended yourself and the reaction you received that made you feel like the bad person?

4) “why can’t I have great grades as well if I put in so much more work.” Any ideas why?

5) “people seem to like rude people more”- can you elaborate on that?

anita