Dear Lisa:

I am not clear about your attitude toward men, from before, when you wrote that you feel that men hate you. You never indicated your grandfather hating you, or problems with him and you never met your father (and you see him, in your mind’s eye, as a kindred spirit, a fellow artist). You never had a relationship with a man, so I don’t know where it comes from, the feeling of being hated—

Nor the feeling of being objectified by men. Maybe it is about having been abused by an uncle (a  thought-of sibling, at the time)…?

Regarding men objectifying women- happens a lot, especially in certain cultures. On the other hand, many men look up to their wives as if they were their mothers, and often, the wife is in charge of the man’s life. Often, the man is eager to please the woman/ wife and she sets the rules.

Can you elaborate on: “I am devasted that my loyalty and love is rejected. My thoughts, everything”- your loyalty and love for him is rejected?

anita