Dear wildoceanflower:

You wrote:  “i really really need him to own up to what he did to me. Its very important. To clear both of our lives”-

I don’t think he needs clearing his life. I don’t think he is going to own up to what you want him to own up to. No different from your mother not having a need or motivation to clear up her life or own up to anything. So the truth I mentioned in my last post to you applies to your ex as well as to your mother. And to your father.

You wrote: “That is keeping us ALL in limbo”- it keeps you in limbo, in that muck I mentioned before, the wild ocean flower being stuck in the muck instead of flowing in the clear ocean.

You are waiting for what is not going to happen- people around you owning up for their parts in your hurt and dysfunction. Waiting and reading signs in the stars, reading about karma. Karma, like the concept of heaven and hell, extends to future lives/ after death because in this life there is no justice, and what goes around doesn’t come around to the same people. When person A hurts person B, person B hurts person C and person A may not experience the karma of his actions, not in one lifetime.

(I don’t believe in future lifetimes, reincarnation, heaven and hell).

I see you as stuck-in-the-muck of original family dysfunction, extended to an ex boyfriend experience, being obsessed with the latter, waiting… waiting.

anita