Dear Soul-searcher/Alexandra:

In your recent post to me you wrote that his mean and abrupt communications with you “upsets, angers and confuses me…I feel every time he is mean or is abrupt… I just excuse his behavior by saying to myself be a little be more understanding he’s going through a horrible time right now”-

When people are mean, it is not because they are happy at the moment. Does this mean that whenever someone is unhappy, they have to act mean?

anita