I am going to look for a therapist starting today. Is there any particular reason that I would be subconsciously looking for a dad and not a mom even though I mostly had issues with my mom? Does it just depend on sexual preference or would the mom issues be reflected in my broken friendships? My dad was the silent type who was usually very nice except for the maybe one or two times a month he would lash out and yell or spank us. My mom was more the type to be either yelling or making constant negative comments.