Hello anita,

I thought that I’m more or less okay with my past. The things that happened back then, don’t really hurt any more. And I also get along a lot better with my parents now. But maybe it could be worth exploring this more. It just felt that I already talked endlessly about it with my former therapist and other people. But maybe I don’t really understand what it all means yet.

And I also meant that I don’t want to beat myself up over past mistakes and rather focus on the now. Because sometimes I obsess about things I have done or said, even tiny little things and have a hard time moving on.

And you are right, it takes time. Changing your life is not so easy… I often want too much at once and I’m sometimes a perfectionist and then I don’t even get started. Or I start a huge project that I can’t finish.

It seems I can’t get past a certain point, I feel stuck. Why do I give up when things get tougher? I worry that I’m too lazy. Of course it’s easier to avoid problems, than to face them. I also self-sabotage and overreact (like wanting to destroy my work when things don’t work out). And I’m not very ambitious. When I was a child or teenager I used to think “one day I will die anyways, so why even bother?”. I guess I still have that attitude. And it could also be, that I don’t really like myself very much. Often I try harder when other people are involved.

Hello Peter,

yes, I think I know pretty well what I need to change, but it’s hard to put in practice.

I looked up the author you suggested and they even have one of the books at the library. But right now it is borrowed by someone else. Thank you for the suggestion, I might read it when it is back!

Today I went for a short walk. I think I might take your challenge. I also did yoga for the past four days. Hopefully I can keep it up!

Thank you both for your advice!

Lily.