Heartbrokengurl,

First of all I believe that words are powerful especially the ones we use for ourselves.  I suggest you think of yourself as someone that is not heartbroken.

I wonder if in your past thinking back when you met someone that you like a lot and was not as anxious?  Or have you always been that way?

If so then can you look back and see a time when it did work out OK?  Or it does not have to be with another guy but about a time when you were not so anxious?  Can you get back to that feeling?

Mark