Hello Kai,

I agree with Mark that what you have is where you are at this moment.  You are questioning whether your boyfriend is “The One.”  What is making you question that?  Is it something in his behavior?  Is it something you are missing and wish you had – he isn’t romantic, or he’s too romantic?  He’s needy or not needy enough? I urge you to give it some thought and then talk to him.  If you can’t both communicate at this stage, it will only be more difficult the longer and thicker you get into your relationship.

You say at times, deep down, you “feel the need to stay or be with him.”  Does that need stem from you feeling safe and loved by him, or does it stem from insecurity – on your part or his?

It’s also worth pointing out that while some people do hear a shout from the heavens that this is the person they are destined to be with, these relationships sometimes go the distance and sometimes they don’t.

Airene