Peaches,

If the relationship is unbalanced where you are doing more emotionally than your boyfriend then it can be difficult to be open and vulnerable with him.  I believe is what you see is what you get and trying to change someone is a losing proposition.

You have communicated clearly several times what you need out of the relationship and he is not stepping up to meet your needs.

It sounds like that is not an acceptable relationship for you to have.  You want someone you can be emotionally intimate with and be able to trust.  You want that closeness, connection and support from your romantic partner.

You are not getting that from him.

How to communicate that you want to move on?  I always believe in direct and honest communication.  That is the most compassionate way of letting someone know about what is going on.  There is less chance of misunderstanding.  People worry about hurting the other’s feelings.  I say BS on that.  We are responsible for how we feel.  If we come from the place of compassion and not of malice then it is up to the other person deal with the message.

You know what you need and you are not getting that from this relationship.  Honor yourself, your needs.

Mark