Dear Anita,

thank you for wording this so clearly. “lose the nostalgia.”

I am beginning to see this.  It is not that I look back at an old moment and feel angry, or feel that “wow that was all a lie!” It is more that I see the whole scenario.

With my feeling in the car, I saw myself a an adolescent having an enjoyable summer.  I also saw that during this time my parents weren’t “attacking” me in the same way as there was nothing I was doing to threaten them.  I was a young girl living in their home.

I was not threatening their idea of self worth by meeting a man who has a much better set of parents.  I wasn’t “leaving” home by getting married and “abandoning them.” IN that moment that summer they were the same as they are now, flawed and terrible.  YET it just had not manifested in the way it did years later, at present.  The truth is all there – it is just a matter of what we see at the time.