I don’t know if you’re right or wrong about the drama queen needing attention part. I think this forum is helpful in that not only does it provide emotional support and some light advice for those who need it, but it also helps people see how their own actions/behaviors and character flaws may be contributing to their own problems. I’m not as good as other members at determining what a person’s character flaws are; I’m better at providing the emotional support and light advice (which you can take or leave btw).

So if you call her and she says she wants to get back together, you’ll be happy but you now have two brand new problems to deal with: 1) the fear that she will hurt you again, and 2) you can’t bring her around your friends because they don’t like her. If she says that she doesn’t want to get back together then you’ll be able to move on, but you are hurt.

When I’m faced with a problem like this, I do nothing. I wait until I can see the situation more clearly before I make any big moves. I focus on other areas of my life: family, work, health, friends, hobbies, ambitions, spirituality, fun. I tell myself that I’ll be okay without immediate resolution to this problem. Then I leave it alone and get on with life. More often than not the problems resolve themselves without my doing anything.