Dear Anita,

Thank you for replying so fast. I know, but our connection is different: I feel like I trust you because I know that you are a decent person who listens to understand and who listens to help, and will always take things back to a basis of logic and reason.

It’s hard to say with the Toby thing. From what I’ve shown you, you seem to insist that he is an anxious guy, but from the things I’ve experienced with him, it can come across that he is actually a liar, or a guy who does this to a lot of girls – if I’m honest. The not knowing who he really is part is killing me.

I know I can’t fall in to that same pattern of becoming obsessed or fixating on them, as I’ve said before. The only way I can not do this with any guy is by focusing on my own life, and already filling complete and full. I’m finding it hard because I never thought like could be that way, and grew up with it not being so. I am trying so hard to change the way I view myself and change the way I view things, but like I said, sometimes it really does seem like the impossible.

Cat