Hi Dorothee,

My main focus for university is to obviously earn the highest marks I can but I also want to have fun at the same time.

These are both great goals! I think another great one is to learn as much as you can while you’re there. Really learn, not just to get high marks but also to increase your knowledge in different areas. And it’s okay to question what you learn. Trust your instincts, do your own research, and draw your own conclusions.

…it still hurts whenever I think about the past, even though I know it is over and time for me to move on.

I think most people hurt when they think about certain parts of their pasts. I know I do! It’s part of being human, I think. But I believe that the hurt we feel can make us stronger. For example, take rejection. Rejection is awful and hurts terribly, but every time I get through the awful experience of being rejected I can feel how much stronger I am than before it happened. At first the hurt is really bad, and then one day I notice it’s not as bad as it was in the beginning, that I’m starting to feel a little better. Some days my feelings slip back to bad again, but over time the general trend is one of improvement, or feeling better.  And then I say to myself “Whew! You’re getting through this! You can handle this after all!” That makes me feel strong and proud of myself. It’s a process though; it doesn’t happen overnight, and this process can happen for different kinds of hurt, not just rejection.

What usually happens during frosh week of Uni? will I go to parties? is it as fun as everyone else says it is?

Each university has its own unique Frosh Week. Yours may include tours of the university and the residence hall you’ll living in (if you’re not commuting from home). There may be games, concerts, parades, clubs to join, videos to watch, parties, food, and you’ll probably be meeting a lot of other frosh. I don’t know, though, what your university will be doing. I hope that it’ll be really fun!

B