Though he pretended it was a proposal from home he never thought I would find out that this is a girl whom he got to know by himself and has been associating with her while I was with him. He introduced her to his parents checked their Horoscopes it matched. once everything is finalized that’s where he decided to tell me and told me its a proposal from home. I have no choice to do it. I still love you but I’m doing this to my parents. How could he back stab me after 7 years.

Risha – in time (a long time), you will realize that this “man” (I use that term loosely) wasn’t worthy of you. He is a garbage human being for what he did to you. I was in a similar situation. I dated a man from India for several years. He would always tell me how much he loved me. Asked me to marry him several times. But I had a feeling. I believe a woman’s intuition is her superpower in life. It helps us. We need to listen. Anyway, after some investigation, I discovered that the person I was with was courting other women for marriage as well. When I confronted him, he turned the tables to get out of his lie and told me I never meant anything to him at all, that we weren’t even seeing each other. His words hurt me very, very deeply. I had never been in a situation like that before. I have never had someone be so deceitful towards me. It was a hard lesson to learn. He got married—not even engaged, full-on married—two months after we last talked.

I wanted to relate this because your story is not unique. This type of thing happens to women all over the world. It is NOT a reflection on your or your worth. Someone must gave me the advice “Don’t lose the good in you to accept the bad in someone else.”  You did nothing wrong. Let him carry his karma.

It’s been two years since my experience happened. It still weighs on my self-esteem, I have trust issues with men, and I admit to sometimes reminiscing about the good times because it seemed so much easier … but my mind won’t let me falter. I realize that a lot of what I thought was reality, was in fact a lie. Where I now get my strength is by communicating and sharing with others online (like in this forum). Do NOT send that email. Please don’t. Continue writing to people here. Perhaps start a journal. I agree with Anita in that if you can move away, you should research it. You can start a new life, no matter the age.

It will get easier bit by bit. If you need help or an online friend to chat with, please don’t hesitate to let me know. I am thinking about you and sending positive thoughts your way.