Hi Katie,

The trick is to make the decision to break up with your boyfriend whether the new guy existed or not. And by the way, YES! I think you SHOULD break up with your boyfriend ANYWAY! This relationship has run its course. You are worth so much more than being treated like you were an unwanted consolation prize.

The other trick of it is to be OK if the new guy doesn’t actually choose you as a girlfriend once you break up with the old boyfriend. Otherwise you can be totally resentful. I would keep him as a friend forever regardless of how far it goes with him.

This new guy has come into your life to show you how you SHOULD be treated. Thank God! Better you find this out now than at 30 when you find yourself in a loveless marriage.

Best,

Inky