Hi nickita,

I’ve been his friend (but not calling at 12 AM!!)

This is what’s going on:

1. You only call your sister at 12 AM for husband troubles. If I called my guy friend at 12 AM he would only be a sister to me.

2. She knows (or at least feels) his crush and it is an ego boost for her.

3. He is not getting validated from her (husband, just giving birth) so he is seeking some sort of validation (if only that his crush is real). THAT is why he is confessing to you his erotic feelings and parallel fantasy life.

4. The fact that he is also her husband’s friend so they will always be friends on some level. Are you willing to live with that?

5. He is getting off on you being jealous and/or upset. He thrives on drama. The drama that he exists and matters.

6. I would tell him you need a break. He’s a smart guy. He’ll figure it out. You don’t have to say anything.

Best,

Inky