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Lets say down the road, maybe years from now or not. Having that feeling of betrayal. Even though it was nothing like cheating or anything. But feeling like you were lied to and betrayed. Is that something you would be able to overcome and over look, or would you always have an issue?
No, I wouldn’t always have an issue, but my ex did far more to me than just confiding in a friend of mine and I’d still be willing to work things out, so I’m not sure my thoughts on this are comparable to your ex. I kind of think it’s silly she considers that betraying her trust anyway. Does she not confide in her own friends? Wouldn’t that friend have already known it all anyway? So I don’t really understand why she felt betrayed by that to begin with unless she was just saying she did to ease some of her own guilt over what she did to you. You were just trying to figure out what in the world was happening and I think that should’ve been understandable.
Anyway, though, if she clung onto any sort of betrayal that happened while you were heartbroken and emotional, I’m not sure she’d be worth having back anyway because there’s a certain lack of understanding there, especially since she’s the one who betrayed your trust to begin with. So I wouldn’t worry about that too much. It’s likely she just wanted to point a finger at you to ease her own guilt but it actually wasn’t that big of a deal.