Dear Lisa:

“Oh how I wish I didn’t ‘see’ so much. I would be loved, liked… ‘Living is easy with eyes closed'”-

I learned in my life that there is that when  I see things correctly, then there is more to see. Here is a way to  know  if you see things correctly: if there is still more to see.  If there  is  no more to see, if you think you understand it all, the way it is, case closed, nothing  more to see, then there is something  incorrect in that seeing.

An example in my life: I used  to think that people are trying to hurt me, often, that this is their intent. I still hear that voice in my head warning  me, that  someone  is angry at  me and will take their revenge soon. I was stuck seeing  that  and only that, hoping again and again for something  different, but.. nope, nothing different happened, I saw nothing new.

Until I did. I finally saw that it was my mother who  was angry with me and  it  was she who took her revenge, again and again and  yet, again. And  I saw that  all the people I feared, none  bothered  to punish me, not even close to her passion to punish me  and humiliate  me.

So over time, I realized not everyone  is my mother, that she is only one  person. Sure, there are cruel people out there, but in my personal life, I didn’t encounter one who was cruel to me anywhere close to the extent that she was.

In summary, I saw  my mother in everyone and thought I  saw all there is to see. Now I see people, this  and that individual. I see individuals.

anita