Dear Yoker:

You probably know that the need for affection, physical and otherwise is a natural need, all humans need that. Other social animals do  as well.

Plus there  is that sexual need young men and women feel at puberty, the need for affection and sexual interactions with other people.

Regardless of religion and country of origin, these  needs are natural to all  humans.

If your religion allows it  only after marriage, and you  want to behave according to your religion and/ or according to your family values and  instructions, guided by the religion, then you will wait until marriage before having this physical need met, affection and sex.

Best you can do, acting in accordance to the religion/ values your family believes in, is make sure to choose a wife who you appreciate  and value and who  will appreciate  and value you, the two of you trusting each other and  worthy of each other’s trust, kind  to  each other, patient and respectful, not aggressive. Then you can enjoy affection and sex for decades to come.

anita