Dear Anita,

It is stupid isn’t it.  Almost like a broken record.  Something doesn’t serve you (me) and you still seek it or attend to it, and then suffer.

Then again.  And again.

Perhaps because of deep ingrained ideas of what is “good and bad” and “right and wrong”

Clearly – it starts from the definition.  My OWN dictionary definition.  Perhaps I can spend some time creating this new dictionary.

Let me start here:

-good company = those who do not create distress or feeling of guilt in me

-good use of time = rewarding and productive, leading to either joy, relaxation, or not negating a good baseline state

-good people interaction = that of a win win situation, something positive for me, and something positive for me

There is no virtue in giving and giving and running yourself ragged.  you don’t get a prize.  no you don’t