Hi Anyone,

If he is abusive, it’s a good idea to call a social worker. Even a parish nurse from their current or old church. There are professionals who protect older people too from this kind of thing. I would also have neighbors visit them. A lot. Abuse thrives when no one’s looking. If your parents are visited (A LOT) your brother will know that other people care for and are looking out for them. Who knows? He may feel embarrassed that they don’t REALLY need him for rides to their appointments because there are truly many volunteers who would LOVE to schlep them around and take care of them. He may even move out one fine day, who knows?

The other problem is your parents are “only” seventy, and they may not even realize they are old. They may truly think: “We can handle our son. We’re HELPING our son”.

Also take just your mom away to be with you for a couple weeks. Call it a women’s retreat. Go wherever. She will get much needed relief from your brother, and your father can deal with him man to man maybe.

Best,

Inky