Hi John,

You explained that very well. Thank you.

The feeling you get when you think of your ex or see a text message from her is very strong indeed. So strong that it clouds your good judgement, and I’ve learned from this thread that your judgment is very good. You pay attention. You see things. Even in your last post you refer to her as a “bitch”, but her character doesn’t seem to be a big factor for you. You love her unconditionally, that is, without conditions. I love my husband very much too but I don’t love him unconditionally. There are conditions that need to be met for our relationship to work. Honesty, fidelity, mutual respect, and transparency are a few.

I still think you’re making great progress! You’re still thinking about her fewer days than you used to, right? So this past week has been especially tough with you thinking about her more than you have in recent weeks….so what!  I think next week will be better.

Keep moving forward! 🙂

Have a nice weekend.

B