The basis of this whole dilemma is your ”exectations’ on how she should have behaved, or should still behave (with an apology).  You can only know how you would behave if the tides were turned and cannot expect anyone else to do so . No one ‘thinks’ like you and only you know how uoset you are with it.  So what do you do with that?  Find out what this lesson is trying to teach you.  What is it that you are ‘grudging’ on?   What is it that you want her to say to you and would it make any difference if she did?  What Are you feeling and how could you change it?  Let go of expectations of other people. You can lead a person to knowledge but you can’t make them think.

It’s not about putting yourself in their shoes, it’s about feeling validated for your wishes on how to be treated and how not to be.  But you have no control over how you are treated by others.  What you do with it is up to you.  You cannot ”make’ someone else have a conscious or be responsible for anything they do or say.

I was there for a friend for 15 years, no judgement, no question.  Always there.  But i can not expect her to be there for me when i need it, not once.   Let it go.

Love always.

Sal