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April 16, 2019 at 11:40 pm #289397
Bunny, not if you’re a surrealist 🙂
There are no rules xoApril 16, 2019 at 11:25 pm #289395
As a surrealist, teacher, writer, ceramist, illustrator, drawer, exhibiting artist and …..whatever else…. I can only say. …. Keep practicing it, just do it, and do it again. I can’t remember the actual point where I became an artist. Oh yes i can, when i picked up a brush… But when was it that i actually allowed myself to call myself an artist? That didn’t come for about 20 years later I was self taught. Became a teacher of ceramics, then fine art. THEN went to university to ‘find out what i wanted to be when i grew up’ that’s when i gave up thinking I was ”missing“ something, and gave up University half way through.
Keep doing it
Keep loving it
Blessings, SalApril 16, 2019 at 10:57 pm #289393
The basis of this whole dilemma is your ”exectations’ on how she should have behaved, or should still behave (with an apology). You can only know how you would behave if the tides were turned and cannot expect anyone else to do so . No one ‘thinks’ like you and only you know how uoset you are with it. So what do you do with that? Find out what this lesson is trying to teach you. What is it that you are ‘grudging’ on? What is it that you want her to say to you and would it make any difference if she did? What Are you feeling and how could you change it? Let go of expectations of other people. You can lead a person to knowledge but you can’t make them think.
It’s not about putting yourself in their shoes, it’s about feeling validated for your wishes on how to be treated and how not to be. But you have no control over how you are treated by others. What you do with it is up to you. You cannot ”make’ someone else have a conscious or be responsible for anything they do or say.
I was there for a friend for 15 years, no judgement, no question. Always there. But i can not expect her to be there for me when i need it, not once. Let it go.
SalApril 16, 2019 at 10:27 pm #289389
I think you have found the answer yourself, by stating that, “– because I hold myself at a really high standard“. The humility in that is knowing that we are no better or worse, we are just different. It’s ok, maybe, to hold to YOUR high standards but believe it is just for you and not reflect on other people’s standards. Accepting people for all their differences is a part of knowing that we are all evolving, and that no one is on the same ”level’ as we are. When I see ‘bad’ things done by others I have discernment in knowing that I don’t choose that “bad” thing for me. The bad is only from my own beliefs, conditioning, opinion, or judgements and i try to remember that. This allows everyone to ‘be’ who they choose. With the freedom to choose again, if it is not right.
Hope this helps.