Hi jasny,

Well, of course you might feel devastated. It sounds like this guy was your first real friend, your first real love, your first relationship, your first everything!

You should not feel suicidal and I’ll tell you why. Life is not like a Disney movie where the princess marries the first person she meets (who turns out to be a prince, by the way!) Statistically you are NOT going to marry the first boyfriend you have. Statistically, NONE of your relationships will be the one that leads to marriage. Generally, people go through several boyfriends and girlfriends (we can Google the exact number) before settling down.

As for this guy, what I would do is go radio silence on him. Give him a chance to miss you. When he calls assure him that you are still alive and then tell him you have to run you’re late to a meeting, or whatever…. No one wants to be held emotional hostage by a suicidal person. You are holding him emotional hostage. You really think he will come back to you if you keep this up?

Best,

Inky