Dear Anita,

I woke up today with a smile. Do you know what kind of smile this was? A smile that I thought that I am a thirtysomething-year-old person. A little bit of wisdom if you will. I have said for so long that I feel much younger than I am, I look younger maybe, sometimes act younger because I have a lot of fun/silliness, and given the treatment by my parents, often didn’t feel like a true adult.

I’ve noticed that a major struggle with in my marriage has been this. I didn’t pick up on the straightaway, thinking oh I’m not mature enough to be married. But our conversations have led to many thoughts for me, the difference between teenage priorities versus adult priorities. Given that my husband and I trained for so long – A little bit of delay… As well given that we were trainees/students we beyond our 20s.

I see that maturity doesn’t just come with age, comes with making decisions, setting priorities, and most important weeding things out. I look forward to our conversations further today.