Dear Anita,

A long term intentional practice of calm.

Sometimes this feels like your whole life has to be dedicated to this.  As in, stop pause, and live life focused only on calm.

Other times it feels like, when you go throughout the day- you can keep it in mind.  The issue with this second way is that it is so easy to slip back, and then the frustration arises – of not keeping the calm (when you know better)

As you have said many times, to be angry with oneself will lead to nothing beneficial.

I notice my triggers very easily now, especially when they are certain people/types of conversations.  I think knowing this sometimes leads to more annoyance on my end the: “oh cmon you know better, why are you engaging in this sort of thing.”

But I have to remember that life is fluid it will come and go, so will the learning and experience.  You can’t avoid things – but you can surely engage less in time in things that don’t bring out good meaning.