Hi Alizee2007,

You’ve met a man who you have strong gut feelings for yet you are unable to approach him because………….maybe you just want to leave him in fantasy land.  The reason this is depressing you is because you are not expressing you.  

He likes nature, countryside, etc.  Do you?  Offer to pack a picnic.  Make a joke of it if you have to.  You have left this to flow naturally for two years.  I don’t think that particular strategy is working.  Let your colleagues know that you are in the market for a relationship – people talk.  Perhaps it has reached his ears that you are not interested in men.

“You can’t be with him because of external circumstances”.  These are the barriers you have been putting up.  Perhaps he has the same barriers.  Perhaps he thinks you are only interested in him professionally.  How are you going to break those barriers down?

Ask yourself two questions:  What is the worst that will happen if you state your interest?  What is the worst that will happen if you don’t?

I absolutely believe you when you say what your feelings are towards this man you’ve met professionally.  They are your feelings and they are valid.  You can feel as if you have known someone forever even when you’ve just met.  Why rationalize it.  There are two hemispheres to our brain – rational comes from the left, emotional comes from the right (gut instinct).  Trust it!

Aside from that, write a personal profile and go on to a dating website.  State what you are looking for in a man.  Go out with a few men that you are not obsessing over.  It sounds to me as if you have been avoiding relationships for a very long time.  Perhaps you need to get some dating practice in.

Let me know what you think.

Peggy