Dear Anita,

Thank you for your input.

Another part of the move, the non job aspect is lifestyle.  So apart from NYC, we do wish for a place we can enjoy the weather much more and outdoor activities.  Spend time at a beach or hiking when we have down time.  Spend time walking in nature – versus urban environment. The idea of raising children in more of an outdoor environment, being able to sit outdoors after dinner, and enjoy such activities.

Of course Southern California appeals to us for this reason.  It appeals to many.  LA does not given traffic, and culture is not great – I much prefer NYC as a city.  But I do enjoy San Diego very much, and parts of Orange County – having spent a lot of time there growing up seeing extended relatives and friends.

You said the area is not an option, given that I have the stable job there, not my husband.  Makes perfect sense.

Another location, in which he has a stable option – much better – especially for myself as a future mother.

Here’s the thing, the job option I have in Southern California will likely provide the best maternity leave/time off/benefits out of any job as it is a government type of position.  Thus, the salary may not be as high as the private sector, but the package is – and if I rose up as a leader in 3-5 years, such as a section chief etc, I would be able to have an even work/life balance.  Even as is, the position has a good set up.  5 weeks vacation, 13 sick days.  Pension plan possible for retirement.