Dear (Tired & Angry) Cali Chica:

A quiet automatic feeder, door closed, a weekend predetermined bedtime, three easy to come by solutions. If you have an additional room, maybe you can sleep there at nights when he is on call (?)

I used to wake up every day for a few years at 2 am, sometimes earlier, rarely after 3, but before 4 am. Sometimes napped for an hour in the middle of the day, bedtime was early, before 8 pm. That was a couple of years ago. Somehow, I decided to not get out of bed before 5 am. I didn’t, stayed in bed and surprisingly fell back asleep eventually once awake very early. It is a great relief to not be up so very early. It happened to me, it can happen for you.

Your husband didn’t do anything wrong, he is your anger go-to place. You can trust your anger to go there, so next time you feel angry at him, remind yourself: oh, that’s my anger go-to place. If you are still angry at him, ask yourself: did he do anything wrong? Not really..? Well, it’s my anger go-to place.

I hope today at work is less grueling than yesterday’s 20 min per anesthesia schedule, pushing overweight patients’ beds (aren’t there employees whose job is to do that?)

anita